Someone named Whit is a professional magician, and he leased a restaurant in Los Angeles to play tricks every evening to entertain diners while they eat. One afternoon he went to a family, and after introducing himself, he pulled out a deck of cards and went into action. When faced with a little girl sitting at the table, he was told that Wendy, the child, was a blind girl. Whit replied, "It's okay. If he wanted, I wanted to try a magic trick. "As he turned to the child, Whit said," Wendy, you want to help me do this trick? "
With a shy, Wendy shrugged and said, "Want". Whit sitting in a chair across from Wendy's, then said, "I will show you a card, Wendy, and the card can be red and black. I want you to use your psychic powers and tell what color the card, red or black. You understand? "Wendy nodded. Whit show king card clubs and said, "Wendy, this is a red card or black card?"
Kemudiaan a moment, the blind child said, "Black". The family smiled. Whit raised seven card heart and said, "This is a red card or black card?" Wendy said, "red" Then Whit held three cards, three of diamonds and said, "red or black?" Without hesitation, Wendy said, "red ". His family laughed nervously. Whit raised three cards again and Wendy to guess all three correctly! His family could hardly believe how telling his guess.
In the seventh card, Whit held five hearts and say, "Wendy, I want you to guess the value and type of this card. whether the heart, diamonds, clubs or leaves. "A moment later, Wendy replied confidently," five of hearts cards "Her family breathed a breath.
They were amazed! Whit asked his father if he uses magic tricks or real. Whit replied, "You have to ask yourself to Wendy" The father said, "Wendy, how?" Wendy smiled and said. "Magic!". Whit shook hands with the whole family, hugging Wendy, leaving his business card, then said goodbye. Clearly he has created a magical moment that will never be forgotten by the family. The question, of course, how Wendy's know the color card? because Whit had never met Wendy before the events in the restaurant, he certainly could not tell before when he will issue a red card or black card. and because Wendy was blind, he could not see color or the value of the card Whit show. so how?
Whit able to create a miracle once in a lifetime by using a secret code and think fast. Early in his career, Whit foot creating a code to convey information to others without kata2. He has not had a chance to use that code to the events in the restaurant. When Whit was sitting across from Wendy and said, "I will show you a card, Wendy, and the card can be red or black," he tapped Wendy feet (at the foot of the table) so when he says "red" and twice when he says " black "
To make sure that Wendy understood, he repeated the secret sign, saying, "I want you to use your psychic powers and tell me, what color the card, red (for) or black (tuk tuk). Do you understand? "When Wendy nodded, he knew that Wendy had understood the code and want to play. Her family thought when Whit asked if Wendy "understand," he was referring to his verbal instructions. How he told the five of hearts card at Wendy? Simple. He knocked Wendy foot five times to tell that the card is worth five. When he asked if the card hearts, leaves, curly or diamonds, he told sex with Wendy foot tapping when he says "heart"
The real magic or a miracle of this story is its effect on Wendy. EVENT IS NOT JUST gave him a chance to shine for a moment and FEEL SPECIAL IN front of her family, HIM, BUT ALSO TO BE A STAR IN THE HOUSE. DURING WHICH HE IS TO FEEL THE CHARGES family, parallel to FEEL TODAY BECAUSE THEY THAT HAPPENS.
A few months after the incident, Whit received a package from Wendy. It contained a set of Braille cards, along with a letter. In the letter, thanked Wendy Whit has made him feel special, and help him "see" for some time. EVEN TO STAY WENDY WAS NOT SEEN, BUT SULAP belief has grown Whit HIMSELF DURING THIS IS MISSING. Wendy closed the letter by saying that he wanted to Whit receive these braille cards so he could think of other tricks for the blind.
Source: Adapted from Chicken Soup for the Soul by Michael Jeffreys
Dec 11, 2009
Why Smart People Can Fail?
How much of what can be taught by the failure of self -
us! Those who learn from mistakes can come back with
a stronger condition than before.
You may have failed in your career. The only way to
avoid failure is to never try to pursue success; fixed
stay where you are now. Actually you can learn from
failure, think about what went wrong and fix it. You
has the power to change. Even a successful man like Samuel
Beckett, author of the play's most prominent theater in the twentieth century,
once wrote that he was not familiar with failure, "after
breathe in deeply with the air of an exciting life. "
Thorough research is very important to the defeat. You have to deal with
failure to avoid a possible repeat. Based on interviews
with nearly 200 people who have overcome career failure
large, the following six most common reasons for failure. Whoever you are,
you may find yourself in this list.
1-Lack of Social Skills.
Most people who lack social skills reasoned that
"Office politics" was the cause of their failure. However, no office politics
more than the normal interaction between the employees. If you have
difficulties with "office politics", perhaps you really have
difficulties in dealing with others. Most careers involve
others. No matter how great your academic intelligence, keep your
need to have social intelligence, (eg, ability to listen, be sensitive
the feelings of others, give and take criticism well).
People who have high social intelligence to admit their mistakes,
moved on and know how to build support for the team. Social intelligence
is a skill that can be obtained with practice.
2-Not Suitable.
Maybe you did not fail, only to suffer a case
mismatch. Success requires a match between skills, interests,
personality, power and values in your work. If you feel
not match, then feel free to review the work and behavior
adjust or change his job. For some people, the main
the question is how much risk is taken bold.
3-Lack of Commitment.
Something done by halves increases the chance of failure.
Fantasy fear of failure that happen to people who do not have
commitments can cause it to avoid failure by not involving
emotionally. In addition, lack of self respect
is the primary cause of failure. To be able to take part in the success,
You must be sure that you can do it.
4-Too Scattered Focus.
Some people do too many activities that eventually no
make a good one. Focus on your self back on what
best done. Realize your limitations, set priorities, and
set up your business organization, is the main things to achieve Suskes.
5-Hidden Obstacles
Sometimes the hidden obstacles that are difficult fight. For example,
age, sex discrimination and race. You should review,
based on a correct analysis of the situation, to regain
control over life and your future.
6-Deplorable.
Sometimes an event happens and you can not avoid it.
What can you do? First, do not blame yourself if
it happened. Second, remember that you always have a choice,
although the choice is not obvious.
The opportunity came again, and the direction that you set may be
changed again. But if you can think clearly about the failure,
if you meyadari that you are one who always have a choice,
then you will be able to overcome a valuable lesson.
Why smart people can fail? They can fail because
many reasons. But failure is not the issue. Guy
best punbbisa experience kegagalanb,. What is important is
bagaimaan we ememtik lessons from our failures. What characteristics
protruding from the people who ebnar really clever? They learned the lesson.
(adapted from "Why Smart People Can Fail", Carole Hyatt and Linda
Gottlieb)
us! Those who learn from mistakes can come back with
a stronger condition than before.
You may have failed in your career. The only way to
avoid failure is to never try to pursue success; fixed
stay where you are now. Actually you can learn from
failure, think about what went wrong and fix it. You
has the power to change. Even a successful man like Samuel
Beckett, author of the play's most prominent theater in the twentieth century,
once wrote that he was not familiar with failure, "after
breathe in deeply with the air of an exciting life. "
Thorough research is very important to the defeat. You have to deal with
failure to avoid a possible repeat. Based on interviews
with nearly 200 people who have overcome career failure
large, the following six most common reasons for failure. Whoever you are,
you may find yourself in this list.
1-Lack of Social Skills.
Most people who lack social skills reasoned that
"Office politics" was the cause of their failure. However, no office politics
more than the normal interaction between the employees. If you have
difficulties with "office politics", perhaps you really have
difficulties in dealing with others. Most careers involve
others. No matter how great your academic intelligence, keep your
need to have social intelligence, (eg, ability to listen, be sensitive
the feelings of others, give and take criticism well).
People who have high social intelligence to admit their mistakes,
moved on and know how to build support for the team. Social intelligence
is a skill that can be obtained with practice.
2-Not Suitable.
Maybe you did not fail, only to suffer a case
mismatch. Success requires a match between skills, interests,
personality, power and values in your work. If you feel
not match, then feel free to review the work and behavior
adjust or change his job. For some people, the main
the question is how much risk is taken bold.
3-Lack of Commitment.
Something done by halves increases the chance of failure.
Fantasy fear of failure that happen to people who do not have
commitments can cause it to avoid failure by not involving
emotionally. In addition, lack of self respect
is the primary cause of failure. To be able to take part in the success,
You must be sure that you can do it.
4-Too Scattered Focus.
Some people do too many activities that eventually no
make a good one. Focus on your self back on what
best done. Realize your limitations, set priorities, and
set up your business organization, is the main things to achieve Suskes.
5-Hidden Obstacles
Sometimes the hidden obstacles that are difficult fight. For example,
age, sex discrimination and race. You should review,
based on a correct analysis of the situation, to regain
control over life and your future.
6-Deplorable.
Sometimes an event happens and you can not avoid it.
What can you do? First, do not blame yourself if
it happened. Second, remember that you always have a choice,
although the choice is not obvious.
The opportunity came again, and the direction that you set may be
changed again. But if you can think clearly about the failure,
if you meyadari that you are one who always have a choice,
then you will be able to overcome a valuable lesson.
Why smart people can fail? They can fail because
many reasons. But failure is not the issue. Guy
best punbbisa experience kegagalanb,. What is important is
bagaimaan we ememtik lessons from our failures. What characteristics
protruding from the people who ebnar really clever? They learned the lesson.
(adapted from "Why Smart People Can Fail", Carole Hyatt and Linda
Gottlieb)
Opportunity In Life
In a fertile field, there are 2 pieces that lay seed. The first seed said, "I want to grow up. I want to set my roots so deep in this soil, and shoots me in the hard soil. I want to spread all tunasku, to greet the spring. I want to feel the warmth of the sun, and the softness of the morning dew on daunku tops. "
And the first seeds of the program grows, the more towering.
Seedlings of both murmured. "I'm afraid. If my plant roots in this land, I do not know, what will meet down there. Is not there a very dark? And if I shoot my breakthrough upwards, not later beauty of my buds will be lost? My buds would have torn it. What would happen if my buds open, and the snails trying to eat it? And certainly, if I grew up and broke, all kids will try to mencabutku from the ground. No, it would be better if I wait until everything is safe. "
And seed Itupun waiting, in solitude.
A few weeks later, chickens scratch the ground, find the second seed said, and eat immediately.
***
People, indeed, there is always a choice in life. There's always plays that we must live. However, often we are in pessimism, fear, doubt, vacillation and indecision, we've created yourself. We are often persuaded by the reasons for not going to go, do not want to look alive. Because life is a choice, then, face it bravely. And because life is a choice, then, choose wisely.
Companions, each option is always there accompanying risk. But do not let fear, doubt and indecision, we stopped.
ps. "Open every door of opportunity that came knocking, because, who knows, it did not knock the door twice." (Hilman, Lupus I)
And the first seeds of the program grows, the more towering.
Seedlings of both murmured. "I'm afraid. If my plant roots in this land, I do not know, what will meet down there. Is not there a very dark? And if I shoot my breakthrough upwards, not later beauty of my buds will be lost? My buds would have torn it. What would happen if my buds open, and the snails trying to eat it? And certainly, if I grew up and broke, all kids will try to mencabutku from the ground. No, it would be better if I wait until everything is safe. "
And seed Itupun waiting, in solitude.
A few weeks later, chickens scratch the ground, find the second seed said, and eat immediately.
***
People, indeed, there is always a choice in life. There's always plays that we must live. However, often we are in pessimism, fear, doubt, vacillation and indecision, we've created yourself. We are often persuaded by the reasons for not going to go, do not want to look alive. Because life is a choice, then, face it bravely. And because life is a choice, then, choose wisely.
Companions, each option is always there accompanying risk. But do not let fear, doubt and indecision, we stopped.
ps. "Open every door of opportunity that came knocking, because, who knows, it did not knock the door twice." (Hilman, Lupus I)
Strategy Building Confidence
have you ever had a crisis of confidence or in everyday language "not confident" in the face of a situation or problem? I'm sure almost everyone has experienced a crisis of confidence in a range of life, from childhood to adulthood and even into old age. Of course, loss of self-confidence into something very disturbing, especially when faced with challenges or new situations. Individuals often say to myself, "I was not a coward like this .... so this is why now?" There is a saying: "kok I do not like him, ... who always believed myself ... it's always there less of me ... I am ashamed to be who I am! "
In response to the above conditions will display a question in our minds: why confidence is so important in the lives of individuals. So does lack of confidence can be improved so as not to hinder the development of the individual in carrying out everyday tasks as well as in interpersonal relationships. If that sense of confidence kurnag can be improved, whether steps should be done? These questions I will answer in this article.
Confidence
Self-confidence is a positive attitude that enables an individual to develop his positive assessment both to themselves and the environment / situation. This does not mean that the individual is capable and competent to do everything by himself, aka "magic". Confidence is high in fact only referring to the fact that various aspects of individual life where he felt competent, confident, capable and believes that he can - because it is supported by the experience, the actual potential, achievements and realistic expectations of yourself.
Characteristics or individual characteristics of self-confidence
Some of the features or characteristics of individuals who have the confidence that is proportional, among others:
* Believe in competencies / abilities, so do not need praise, recognition, acceptance, or even respect other people
* No incentive to show for the conformist attitude accepted by another person or group
* Dare to accept and deal with the rejection of others - dare to be yourself
* Have good self-control (not moody and emotionally unstable)
* Having an internal locus of control (see the success or failure, depending on the business yourself and not easily surrender to fate or circumstance, and not dependent / expect help from others)
* Having a positive outlook about yourself, others and situations ornag outside itself
* Have realistic expectations of yourself, so that when expectations were not realized, he still could see the positive side of himself and the situation.
Characteristics or individual characteristics are less confident
Some of the features or characteristics of individuals who lack confidence, including:
* Trying to conformist attitude, merely to get their recognition and acceptance of group
* Save a fear / anxiety of rejection
* It is difficult to accept the reality of self (especially accepting lack dir) and contempt of self - but on the other hand put unrealistic expectations of yourself
* Pessimistic, easily assess all of the negative side
* Fear of failure, thus avoiding all the risks and did not dare set targets for success
* Tend to reject praise sincerely intended (due to self undervalued)
* Always put / positioning itself as the last, because he was not able to assess
* Having an external locus of control (easy to give in to fate, the state and sangattergantung recognition / acceptance and assistance of others)
Development of Self-Esteem
Parenting
The experts believe that confidence is not obtained instantly, but through the process from an early age in life with his parents. Although many factors influence a person's self confidence, but parenting factors and interactions at an early age, is a fundamental factor for the formation of trust diri.Sikap parents, will be received by the child according to his perception at the time. parents who show love, attention, acceptance, love and affection and a genuine emotional attachment with the child, will evoke a sense of self percara on the child. Children will feel that they are precious and valuable in the eyes of parents. And, although he made a mistake, of being the child's parents saw that she still respected and loved. Children are loved and appreciated rather than depending on the achievement or good deed, but because eksisitensinya. Later the child will grow into individuals who can assess themselves and have positive expectations realistic about themselves - such as his parents put unrealistic expectations on him.
Another case with a lack of parental attention to children, or critical, often scolded the child but if the kids do well never praised, never satisfied with the results achieved by the child, or even as if to show their distrust in the ability and independence with an attitude increasingly overprotective increase dependency. Action overprotective parents, inhibiting the development of self-confidence in children because children do not learn to overcome their own problems and challenges - everything is provided and assisted parents. Children will feel, that he was bad, weak, unloved, unneeded, always failing, never pleasant and happy parents. Children will feel inferior in the eyes of other siblings or in front of his friends.
According to psychologists, parents and community standards and often put less realistic expectations of a child or any individual. Attitudes like to compare kids, child defame weakness, or even discuss the advantages other kids in front of their own children, without conscious self-esteem dropped children. In addition, people often unwittingly create a trend which is used as a benchmark standard of performance or social acceptance. Examples of real cases that happened in this country, when a child's suicide because he was not admitted into the major A1 (IPA), although he had attended the elite places, apparently the parents expect their children received at least A1 or A2 , so that could later become a doctor. Or, parents who force their children take these lessons and that, just because the other kids did, too.
This situation ultimately encourage children to grow into individuals who can not cope with him, because in the past (even today), everyone expected him to be someone who is not himself. In other words, to meet social expectations. Finally, children grow into individuals who have the mindset: that to be accepted, appreciated, loved, and acknowledged, to please others and follow their wishes. At the time the individual is challenged to be themselves - they do not have the courage to do it. His confidence was so weak, while the fear is too great.
Negative Mindset
In social life, every individual has a variety of issues, events, meeting new people, etc.. Individual reaction to a person or an event, heavily influenced by the way he thinks. Individuals with self-confidence is weak, tend to perceive all things from the negative side. He does not realize that from within her was all the negativism come from. The mindset of individuals who lack confidence, are characterized by, among others:
* Emphasizing the imperatives of self ( "I have to be this way ... I have to be so"). When he failed, the individual is felt throughout life and destroyed her future.
* How to think the totality and dualism: "if I fail, then I was ugly"
* A futuristic pessimistic: one small failure, these individuals will not have to feel achieved his goals in the future. For example, getting a C in one course, immediately think he was not going to graduate degree.
* Not a critical and selective of self-criticism: critical self and believe that he deserves to be criticized.
* Labeling: easy to blame yourself and give negative titles, like "I was stupid "..." I was destined to be the trouble", etc. ....
* It is difficult to accept any praise or positive things from someone else: when people praise is sincere, the individual immediately felt bad and rejected the compliment. When given the opportunity and confidence to accept the job or an important role, the individual immediately rejected on the grounds inappropriate and not worthy to receive it.
* Suka undermine self success: pleased remembering and even exaggerate the mistakes made, but discouraging success ever achieved. One small mistake, making the individual feel instantly become useless.
Nurturing Self-Esteem
To foster self-confidence that the individual must be proportionate to start from within ourselves. This is very important to remember that only the individual who can overcome his lack of confidence he is experiencing. Some of the following suggestions may be feasible to consider if you are experiencing a crisis of confidence.
1. Assess themselves objectively
Learn to assess themselves objectively and honestly. Make a list of "wealth" person, such as performance ever achieved, positive qualities, both potential is actualized or not, skill, and opportunity or means to support themselves progress. Be aware of all the valuable assets you and find assets that have not been developed. Study the obstacles that so far prevented the development yourself, such as the wrong mindset, intentions and weak motivation, lack of self discipline, lack of persistence and patience, depending on the help of others, or causes any other external. Analysis and mapping of the SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Obstacles and Threats) himself, then used to create and implement self-development strategies are more realistic.
2. Give honest appreciation of self
Be aware of and appreciate the slightest success and the potential you have. Remember that it obtained through a process of learning, evolving and transforming themselves from the first until now. Ignore / underestimate the achievements that had just reached, is to ignore or eliminate an impression that helps you find the right path towards the future. The inability of self-esteem, encourages unrealistic desires and excessive; example: to get rich quick, like a beautiful, popular, had an important position in every way. If further reviewed all of that actually comes from low self-esteem that chronic, rejection of self, inability to respect ourselves - to trying desperately to cover up the origin of themselves.
3. Positive thinking
Try fighting any assumptions, prejudices or negative perceptions that arise in your mind. You can say to yourself, that nobody's perfect and it's okay if I made a mistake. Do not let negative thoughts protracted because without conscious thought will continue to take root, branching and leafy. The larger and spreads, the more difficult to control and cut. Do not let negative thoughts control your thoughts and feelings. Be careful that your future is not damaged due to wrong decisions generated by wrong thoughts. If thoughts come, try to write it for later in the re-view re logically and rationally. In general, more people can see that the thought was not true.
4. Use the self-Affirmation
To combat the negative thinking, use of self-Affirmation in the forms of words that evoke a sense of confidence. Examples:
* I will!!
* I am a determinant of my own life. No one can determine my life!
* I can learn from this mistake. This error did become a very valuable lesson because it helps me understand the challenges
* I am in control of this life
* I am proud of myself
5. Dare to take risks
Based on an objective understanding of self, you can predict the risk of facing any challenge. Thus, you do not need to avoid any risk, but rather to use the strategies to avoid, prevent or even overcome the risks. For example, you do not need to please others to avoid the risk of rejection. If you want to develop themselves (not the self as you would expect someone else), there is a risk and challenge. However, worse was silent and did not do anything than go to grow by taking risks. Remember: No Risk, No Gain.
6. Learn to be grateful and enjoy the grace of God
There are adage says that says people who suffer most in life is people who can not thank God for what he had received in life. This means that these individuals have never tried to see things from a positive standpoint. Even the life she lived so far not seen as a gift from God. As a result, he could not grateful for all blessings, wealth, abundance, achievement, employment, skills, expertise, money, success, failures, difficulties and life experiences. He is like someone who always saw the sunset, never see the sun rise. His life was filled with complaints, anger, envy and jealousy, envy, disappointment, resentment, bitterness and despair. With the "burden" as it was, how the individual can enjoy life and see good things that happened in her life? No wonder if her afflicted feel less confident that chronic, as is always comparing himself with people who make "jealous" heart. Therefore, learn to be grateful for anything you experience and believe that God would want the best for your life.
7. Setting realistic goals
You need to evaluate the goals you set for this, in terms of whether that goal is realistic or not. By applying a more realistic goal, it will facilitate you in achieving that goal. Thus you will become more confident in taking steps, actions and decisions in achieving the future, while preventing unwanted risks.
There may be some other effective ways to foster self-confidence. If you can do some things serpti suggested above, meets these demands shall be free from the crisis of confidence. However, keep in mind one thing good is not until you have over-confidence or self-confidence berlebih-lebihan/overdosis. Confidence that an overdose was not drawing a healthy mental condition because it is a sense of confidence that is false.
Self-confidence is generally not excessive sourced from the existing potential, but rather based on the pressures that may come from parents and community (social), so without knowing the basis for individual motivation for the "must" be a success. In addition, perception can lead to false assumptions about ourselves until confidence is not so much based on real ability. This also can be obtained from the environment in which individuals in the exaggerated, from my friends (peer group) or from themselves (self concept that is not healthy). For example, a child who from birth instilled by parents, that he was special, special, smart, would be a success, etc. - but in the course of time the child had never had a track record of success is real and original (on the basis of its business itself). As a result, the child will grow up to be a manipulator and authoritarian - manipulate, dominate and control others to get what she wants. Self-esteem in such individuals is not based on real competence, but rather on factors external support, such as wealth, position, connection, relationship, back up power family, great parents names, etc.. So, if all attributes were removed, then the individual is not a nobody.
Confident Show Tips
* Stand up straight, the first step you can do is change the appearance, stand up straight, chest and try busungkan perfect tampillah. Just do not let looks disheveled dech, because one's appearance will determine the assessment of other people, make a first impression so tempting then up to you.
* Be assertive, from now on try to change the attitude, be a man who knows when to say no and when to say yes. All-time try not to imagine someone else will say anything about you. And do not be afraid to make changes.
* Objective judge themselves. No body's perfect, nobody else in this world is perfect, and there are no people in this world who do not really useful. Therefore be honest judge yourself, do not always think you are not able to and others are always superior. Everything is the same in spite of different skills, so why minder ....??? Nothing in it.
* Dispose of fear. Usually people who gak pede always difficult to express who she is on others. An easy way to stand up to other oarang is the speaker's eyes we are, but do not look at her. Another looked at the view, if you look at your opponent usually you talk, how they talk, how to look on his face. It's okay to like that just do not miss it, let alone reply to karuan not drool.
* A little strings attached. Try to be strings attached, but do not get stale because it will be boring beneran. Not all lip service is bad kok, to enhance self-confidence may also try it then.
* Talk to a point. features one of the less confident person is not a straightforward talk, always muter. And usually too much to say, eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, such and the like, for example. "I'll eeeee, somebody, I'm not somebody ......".
source: www.e-psikologi.com
In response to the above conditions will display a question in our minds: why confidence is so important in the lives of individuals. So does lack of confidence can be improved so as not to hinder the development of the individual in carrying out everyday tasks as well as in interpersonal relationships. If that sense of confidence kurnag can be improved, whether steps should be done? These questions I will answer in this article.
Confidence
Self-confidence is a positive attitude that enables an individual to develop his positive assessment both to themselves and the environment / situation. This does not mean that the individual is capable and competent to do everything by himself, aka "magic". Confidence is high in fact only referring to the fact that various aspects of individual life where he felt competent, confident, capable and believes that he can - because it is supported by the experience, the actual potential, achievements and realistic expectations of yourself.
Characteristics or individual characteristics of self-confidence
Some of the features or characteristics of individuals who have the confidence that is proportional, among others:
* Believe in competencies / abilities, so do not need praise, recognition, acceptance, or even respect other people
* No incentive to show for the conformist attitude accepted by another person or group
* Dare to accept and deal with the rejection of others - dare to be yourself
* Have good self-control (not moody and emotionally unstable)
* Having an internal locus of control (see the success or failure, depending on the business yourself and not easily surrender to fate or circumstance, and not dependent / expect help from others)
* Having a positive outlook about yourself, others and situations ornag outside itself
* Have realistic expectations of yourself, so that when expectations were not realized, he still could see the positive side of himself and the situation.
Characteristics or individual characteristics are less confident
Some of the features or characteristics of individuals who lack confidence, including:
* Trying to conformist attitude, merely to get their recognition and acceptance of group
* Save a fear / anxiety of rejection
* It is difficult to accept the reality of self (especially accepting lack dir) and contempt of self - but on the other hand put unrealistic expectations of yourself
* Pessimistic, easily assess all of the negative side
* Fear of failure, thus avoiding all the risks and did not dare set targets for success
* Tend to reject praise sincerely intended (due to self undervalued)
* Always put / positioning itself as the last, because he was not able to assess
* Having an external locus of control (easy to give in to fate, the state and sangattergantung recognition / acceptance and assistance of others)
Development of Self-Esteem
Parenting
The experts believe that confidence is not obtained instantly, but through the process from an early age in life with his parents. Although many factors influence a person's self confidence, but parenting factors and interactions at an early age, is a fundamental factor for the formation of trust diri.Sikap parents, will be received by the child according to his perception at the time. parents who show love, attention, acceptance, love and affection and a genuine emotional attachment with the child, will evoke a sense of self percara on the child. Children will feel that they are precious and valuable in the eyes of parents. And, although he made a mistake, of being the child's parents saw that she still respected and loved. Children are loved and appreciated rather than depending on the achievement or good deed, but because eksisitensinya. Later the child will grow into individuals who can assess themselves and have positive expectations realistic about themselves - such as his parents put unrealistic expectations on him.
Another case with a lack of parental attention to children, or critical, often scolded the child but if the kids do well never praised, never satisfied with the results achieved by the child, or even as if to show their distrust in the ability and independence with an attitude increasingly overprotective increase dependency. Action overprotective parents, inhibiting the development of self-confidence in children because children do not learn to overcome their own problems and challenges - everything is provided and assisted parents. Children will feel, that he was bad, weak, unloved, unneeded, always failing, never pleasant and happy parents. Children will feel inferior in the eyes of other siblings or in front of his friends.
According to psychologists, parents and community standards and often put less realistic expectations of a child or any individual. Attitudes like to compare kids, child defame weakness, or even discuss the advantages other kids in front of their own children, without conscious self-esteem dropped children. In addition, people often unwittingly create a trend which is used as a benchmark standard of performance or social acceptance. Examples of real cases that happened in this country, when a child's suicide because he was not admitted into the major A1 (IPA), although he had attended the elite places, apparently the parents expect their children received at least A1 or A2 , so that could later become a doctor. Or, parents who force their children take these lessons and that, just because the other kids did, too.
This situation ultimately encourage children to grow into individuals who can not cope with him, because in the past (even today), everyone expected him to be someone who is not himself. In other words, to meet social expectations. Finally, children grow into individuals who have the mindset: that to be accepted, appreciated, loved, and acknowledged, to please others and follow their wishes. At the time the individual is challenged to be themselves - they do not have the courage to do it. His confidence was so weak, while the fear is too great.
Negative Mindset
In social life, every individual has a variety of issues, events, meeting new people, etc.. Individual reaction to a person or an event, heavily influenced by the way he thinks. Individuals with self-confidence is weak, tend to perceive all things from the negative side. He does not realize that from within her was all the negativism come from. The mindset of individuals who lack confidence, are characterized by, among others:
* Emphasizing the imperatives of self ( "I have to be this way ... I have to be so"). When he failed, the individual is felt throughout life and destroyed her future.
* How to think the totality and dualism: "if I fail, then I was ugly"
* A futuristic pessimistic: one small failure, these individuals will not have to feel achieved his goals in the future. For example, getting a C in one course, immediately think he was not going to graduate degree.
* Not a critical and selective of self-criticism: critical self and believe that he deserves to be criticized.
* Labeling: easy to blame yourself and give negative titles, like "I was stupid "..." I was destined to be the trouble", etc. ....
* It is difficult to accept any praise or positive things from someone else: when people praise is sincere, the individual immediately felt bad and rejected the compliment. When given the opportunity and confidence to accept the job or an important role, the individual immediately rejected on the grounds inappropriate and not worthy to receive it.
* Suka undermine self success: pleased remembering and even exaggerate the mistakes made, but discouraging success ever achieved. One small mistake, making the individual feel instantly become useless.
Nurturing Self-Esteem
To foster self-confidence that the individual must be proportionate to start from within ourselves. This is very important to remember that only the individual who can overcome his lack of confidence he is experiencing. Some of the following suggestions may be feasible to consider if you are experiencing a crisis of confidence.
1. Assess themselves objectively
Learn to assess themselves objectively and honestly. Make a list of "wealth" person, such as performance ever achieved, positive qualities, both potential is actualized or not, skill, and opportunity or means to support themselves progress. Be aware of all the valuable assets you and find assets that have not been developed. Study the obstacles that so far prevented the development yourself, such as the wrong mindset, intentions and weak motivation, lack of self discipline, lack of persistence and patience, depending on the help of others, or causes any other external. Analysis and mapping of the SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Obstacles and Threats) himself, then used to create and implement self-development strategies are more realistic.
2. Give honest appreciation of self
Be aware of and appreciate the slightest success and the potential you have. Remember that it obtained through a process of learning, evolving and transforming themselves from the first until now. Ignore / underestimate the achievements that had just reached, is to ignore or eliminate an impression that helps you find the right path towards the future. The inability of self-esteem, encourages unrealistic desires and excessive; example: to get rich quick, like a beautiful, popular, had an important position in every way. If further reviewed all of that actually comes from low self-esteem that chronic, rejection of self, inability to respect ourselves - to trying desperately to cover up the origin of themselves.
3. Positive thinking
Try fighting any assumptions, prejudices or negative perceptions that arise in your mind. You can say to yourself, that nobody's perfect and it's okay if I made a mistake. Do not let negative thoughts protracted because without conscious thought will continue to take root, branching and leafy. The larger and spreads, the more difficult to control and cut. Do not let negative thoughts control your thoughts and feelings. Be careful that your future is not damaged due to wrong decisions generated by wrong thoughts. If thoughts come, try to write it for later in the re-view re logically and rationally. In general, more people can see that the thought was not true.
4. Use the self-Affirmation
To combat the negative thinking, use of self-Affirmation in the forms of words that evoke a sense of confidence. Examples:
* I will!!
* I am a determinant of my own life. No one can determine my life!
* I can learn from this mistake. This error did become a very valuable lesson because it helps me understand the challenges
* I am in control of this life
* I am proud of myself
5. Dare to take risks
Based on an objective understanding of self, you can predict the risk of facing any challenge. Thus, you do not need to avoid any risk, but rather to use the strategies to avoid, prevent or even overcome the risks. For example, you do not need to please others to avoid the risk of rejection. If you want to develop themselves (not the self as you would expect someone else), there is a risk and challenge. However, worse was silent and did not do anything than go to grow by taking risks. Remember: No Risk, No Gain.
6. Learn to be grateful and enjoy the grace of God
There are adage says that says people who suffer most in life is people who can not thank God for what he had received in life. This means that these individuals have never tried to see things from a positive standpoint. Even the life she lived so far not seen as a gift from God. As a result, he could not grateful for all blessings, wealth, abundance, achievement, employment, skills, expertise, money, success, failures, difficulties and life experiences. He is like someone who always saw the sunset, never see the sun rise. His life was filled with complaints, anger, envy and jealousy, envy, disappointment, resentment, bitterness and despair. With the "burden" as it was, how the individual can enjoy life and see good things that happened in her life? No wonder if her afflicted feel less confident that chronic, as is always comparing himself with people who make "jealous" heart. Therefore, learn to be grateful for anything you experience and believe that God would want the best for your life.
7. Setting realistic goals
You need to evaluate the goals you set for this, in terms of whether that goal is realistic or not. By applying a more realistic goal, it will facilitate you in achieving that goal. Thus you will become more confident in taking steps, actions and decisions in achieving the future, while preventing unwanted risks.
There may be some other effective ways to foster self-confidence. If you can do some things serpti suggested above, meets these demands shall be free from the crisis of confidence. However, keep in mind one thing good is not until you have over-confidence or self-confidence berlebih-lebihan/overdosis. Confidence that an overdose was not drawing a healthy mental condition because it is a sense of confidence that is false.
Self-confidence is generally not excessive sourced from the existing potential, but rather based on the pressures that may come from parents and community (social), so without knowing the basis for individual motivation for the "must" be a success. In addition, perception can lead to false assumptions about ourselves until confidence is not so much based on real ability. This also can be obtained from the environment in which individuals in the exaggerated, from my friends (peer group) or from themselves (self concept that is not healthy). For example, a child who from birth instilled by parents, that he was special, special, smart, would be a success, etc. - but in the course of time the child had never had a track record of success is real and original (on the basis of its business itself). As a result, the child will grow up to be a manipulator and authoritarian - manipulate, dominate and control others to get what she wants. Self-esteem in such individuals is not based on real competence, but rather on factors external support, such as wealth, position, connection, relationship, back up power family, great parents names, etc.. So, if all attributes were removed, then the individual is not a nobody.
Confident Show Tips
* Stand up straight, the first step you can do is change the appearance, stand up straight, chest and try busungkan perfect tampillah. Just do not let looks disheveled dech, because one's appearance will determine the assessment of other people, make a first impression so tempting then up to you.
* Be assertive, from now on try to change the attitude, be a man who knows when to say no and when to say yes. All-time try not to imagine someone else will say anything about you. And do not be afraid to make changes.
* Objective judge themselves. No body's perfect, nobody else in this world is perfect, and there are no people in this world who do not really useful. Therefore be honest judge yourself, do not always think you are not able to and others are always superior. Everything is the same in spite of different skills, so why minder ....??? Nothing in it.
* Dispose of fear. Usually people who gak pede always difficult to express who she is on others. An easy way to stand up to other oarang is the speaker's eyes we are, but do not look at her. Another looked at the view, if you look at your opponent usually you talk, how they talk, how to look on his face. It's okay to like that just do not miss it, let alone reply to karuan not drool.
* A little strings attached. Try to be strings attached, but do not get stale because it will be boring beneran. Not all lip service is bad kok, to enhance self-confidence may also try it then.
* Talk to a point. features one of the less confident person is not a straightforward talk, always muter. And usually too much to say, eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, such and the like, for example. "I'll eeeee, somebody, I'm not somebody ......".
source: www.e-psikologi.com
Confidence
Confidence is the third series of words which when broken will have its own meaning.
Pain is a feeling of self-identified from liver and digested in the brain.
Believes is a commitment from the heart of fruiting behavior.
While Self is the place bersemayamnya Trust.
Confidence is the potential for extraordinary and affecting the quality standards in every human life.
If the name on your "your confidence high" it means the potential of self-confidence that have been through the training process.
Confidence Coaching
Exercising self-confidence is not limited to simply knowing his knowledge through reading books, but more important is to condition ourselves to situations that provide experiences for the self-confidence, for example:
1. Being sales / sellers of goods and offer anything from house to house,
2. Dared to speak before the forum,
3. Giving advice / input on others, the advice is not to be perfect,
4. Get used to be the first / pioneer,
The author has felt the four conditions above and right, others provide a good assessment ... "you have the confidence high".
Benefits of Confidence high
What benefits are felt when we have Confidence high??
Some writers feel the items are:
1. Self-assess that the personal qualities come from within,
2. Strong in arguing and always want to win (further explanation required)
3. Mental compete very high,
4. Not give up easily,
5. Always wanted to have an alternative in solving every problem,
Pain is a feeling of self-identified from liver and digested in the brain.
Believes is a commitment from the heart of fruiting behavior.
While Self is the place bersemayamnya Trust.
Confidence is the potential for extraordinary and affecting the quality standards in every human life.
If the name on your "your confidence high" it means the potential of self-confidence that have been through the training process.
Confidence Coaching
Exercising self-confidence is not limited to simply knowing his knowledge through reading books, but more important is to condition ourselves to situations that provide experiences for the self-confidence, for example:
1. Being sales / sellers of goods and offer anything from house to house,
2. Dared to speak before the forum,
3. Giving advice / input on others, the advice is not to be perfect,
4. Get used to be the first / pioneer,
The author has felt the four conditions above and right, others provide a good assessment ... "you have the confidence high".
Benefits of Confidence high
What benefits are felt when we have Confidence high??
Some writers feel the items are:
1. Self-assess that the personal qualities come from within,
2. Strong in arguing and always want to win (further explanation required)
3. Mental compete very high,
4. Not give up easily,
5. Always wanted to have an alternative in solving every problem,
Dec 5, 2009
Poor = Rich
Since ancient times until today, even until the Day of Resurrection, and many people including me and you who are concerned with property issues. Where is the sense of worry associated with property is always a feeling that menggundahkan hearts and minds as long for wealth and think about how to obtain wealth and figure out how to earn and collect it became more and no less.
Hearts and minds of a person will always feel worried, restless, anxious and uncertain for the world dream of wealth and pleasures of life that usually arise from the property. Hearts and minds of a person will always troubled, worried and anxious when thinking about and imagining owned property was lost or reduced, so that he became poor and suffered from it.
Property issues are concerned because these often give up our hearts and minds of men. Whether they are Muslims and non Muslims, male or female, clergy or lay people, young and old, poor and rich.
Worried, anxious, restless, worried and anxious to have the same meaning that the mood became a problem in every man.
Feelings of worry in terms of livelihood, livelihoods and property basically very human and is allowed. In fact, the problem concerned atay nervous about this property beneficial to the experience because it can cleanse the sins of one's ever done.
Corpulent hadith which states, among other things, because the Prophet Muhammad:
"If the sins of a servant's lot, while he did not have any practices to eliminate them, Allah will remove these sins from him" (Ahmad).
In another hadith, the king said:
"Really is among the sins that can not be eliminated but with apprehension because of making a living." (This hadith mentioned in the book Haithami Majma 'az-Zawad).
And the word of the king that convey the same again with:
"True among those sins no sins that can not be eliminated by prayer, fasting, pilgrimage, and Umroh. They (the Companions) asked: 'what can eliminate it, O Messenger of Allah? "The king replied:" concerns in search of livelihood ". (Narrated by Tabrani).
If you are worried because this property is allowed and can even be sin, then why worry themes was discussed?. Indeed, if the form is still a mild upset, or reasonable and certain limits are still allowed religion. Which should not form danmembahayakan if it was too heavy. As for the characteristics of people who are concerned with the property:
* Always grieve
People who experience feelings of worry to his property will always grieve for the coveted treasure can never be achieved or can kajadi already acquired property is still little and could not appreciate what he has got. There is no word in the dictionary just like this one.
* Experiencing feelings of fear
This person is afraid because of the treasures collected will be reduced gradually and exhausted and treasure coveted can not have. And the fear of poverty because poverty is a symbol of her humiliation, misery and sorrow. So that this person will work like hell in the pursuit of wealth.
* Always discuss matters relating to the property.
The most frequently appear in the sign of someone who is restless or frequent problem is someone is worth a lot of talk about problems associated with the property and how-how acquired.
Wherever he is and with whom he spoke, the main topic of conversation is about wealth and the ways to become rich. These people will not get enough of this talk about let alone ditanggapin by his interlocutor. When talking about the money it will be great excitement but instead when transferred kemasalah lawful and illegitimate then he will move and sometimes angry or silent emotion.
* Greed
If someone has a golden valley He would want a third, so he'll never satisfied with what you get. He also will work no matter late into the night, leaving the family
* Stingy
Curmudgeonly nature permeates the troubled soul of a person in wealth because wealth decreases if afraid to spend. People like this will always treasure membelanjkan cheap to untuki any purpose.
The logic of people like this is very shallow. How he could easily spend a fortune that he got it so hard? he felt property was the result of his own, then he sure has the full right to store and hoard these treasures. Happiness will increase if the property is collected increased. This sperti person would be hard to remove charity. Any charity you do if in a state of forced or done if profitable.
* Envy on the richer people.
Envy and jealousy if there are more than property owned by it and may be the enemy of him, but sometimes reality is even people become poorer than they were. Of course such people will not experience happiness.
By the book = kaya miskin, by Ust. Dr. H. Muhchammad Ichsan, Lc., MA
Hearts and minds of a person will always feel worried, restless, anxious and uncertain for the world dream of wealth and pleasures of life that usually arise from the property. Hearts and minds of a person will always troubled, worried and anxious when thinking about and imagining owned property was lost or reduced, so that he became poor and suffered from it.
Property issues are concerned because these often give up our hearts and minds of men. Whether they are Muslims and non Muslims, male or female, clergy or lay people, young and old, poor and rich.
Worried, anxious, restless, worried and anxious to have the same meaning that the mood became a problem in every man.
Feelings of worry in terms of livelihood, livelihoods and property basically very human and is allowed. In fact, the problem concerned atay nervous about this property beneficial to the experience because it can cleanse the sins of one's ever done.
Corpulent hadith which states, among other things, because the Prophet Muhammad:
"If the sins of a servant's lot, while he did not have any practices to eliminate them, Allah will remove these sins from him" (Ahmad).
In another hadith, the king said:
"Really is among the sins that can not be eliminated but with apprehension because of making a living." (This hadith mentioned in the book Haithami Majma 'az-Zawad).
And the word of the king that convey the same again with:
"True among those sins no sins that can not be eliminated by prayer, fasting, pilgrimage, and Umroh. They (the Companions) asked: 'what can eliminate it, O Messenger of Allah? "The king replied:" concerns in search of livelihood ". (Narrated by Tabrani).
If you are worried because this property is allowed and can even be sin, then why worry themes was discussed?. Indeed, if the form is still a mild upset, or reasonable and certain limits are still allowed religion. Which should not form danmembahayakan if it was too heavy. As for the characteristics of people who are concerned with the property:
* Always grieve
People who experience feelings of worry to his property will always grieve for the coveted treasure can never be achieved or can kajadi already acquired property is still little and could not appreciate what he has got. There is no word in the dictionary just like this one.
* Experiencing feelings of fear
This person is afraid because of the treasures collected will be reduced gradually and exhausted and treasure coveted can not have. And the fear of poverty because poverty is a symbol of her humiliation, misery and sorrow. So that this person will work like hell in the pursuit of wealth.
* Always discuss matters relating to the property.
The most frequently appear in the sign of someone who is restless or frequent problem is someone is worth a lot of talk about problems associated with the property and how-how acquired.
Wherever he is and with whom he spoke, the main topic of conversation is about wealth and the ways to become rich. These people will not get enough of this talk about let alone ditanggapin by his interlocutor. When talking about the money it will be great excitement but instead when transferred kemasalah lawful and illegitimate then he will move and sometimes angry or silent emotion.
* Greed
If someone has a golden valley He would want a third, so he'll never satisfied with what you get. He also will work no matter late into the night, leaving the family
* Stingy
Curmudgeonly nature permeates the troubled soul of a person in wealth because wealth decreases if afraid to spend. People like this will always treasure membelanjkan cheap to untuki any purpose.
The logic of people like this is very shallow. How he could easily spend a fortune that he got it so hard? he felt property was the result of his own, then he sure has the full right to store and hoard these treasures. Happiness will increase if the property is collected increased. This sperti person would be hard to remove charity. Any charity you do if in a state of forced or done if profitable.
* Envy on the richer people.
Envy and jealousy if there are more than property owned by it and may be the enemy of him, but sometimes reality is even people become poorer than they were. Of course such people will not experience happiness.
By the book = kaya miskin, by Ust. Dr. H. Muhchammad Ichsan, Lc., MA
Dec 4, 2009
How to Take a Look at the Smart Financial Decisions
When viewing from the point of view of family finances, most of you already have a long experience. And of course a part of you also make mistakes. Maybe, you still feel upset with the decision made relating to stock investments. For example, a stock you have, you sell at a price of 2000. But 1 week later the stock price jumped so high A, until it reached 3000.
Although the decision was felt to be painful, but this error is not fatal when associated with the family finances but this might not be inevitable despite the best analysts in seoarang capital markets even. But some mistakes that you want to avoid can be very costly or damaging the family's financial arrangements that have been built. Below we give some possible errors regarding the family finances:
* Invest money that you get from the hard work each month just because advertising and promotion tantalizing promise high interest rates and risks could almost say no.
* Purchase insurance life insurance does not meet your needs. You buy insurance with coverage that is too small.
* Failure in investment as early as possible, for long-term financial goals, such as children's education expenses or retirement funds.
Fortunately, such mistakes above you can avoid by taking or learning some basic knowledge of family finances. Like, the decision to buy insurance, we have discussed how to assess the needs and pentinganya insurance for the survival of family life when things happen unexpectedly. Or for long term planning, such as children's education funds or retirement, we also have to explain how to assess those needs and how to save early, providing greater benefits to you.
In relation to financial decision errors, especially investment, we try to give some insights and steps to be on guard, so that decisions you make are not actually damage the family's financial situation in the future. This is related to the emergence of a fake company? investment offering a high level of guaranteed benefits with the risk that virtually no one.
Old rules are forgotten
Many of the rules that have long circulated in the community and have very clear needs, but it is often ignored and forgotten. For example, if you want to buy an investment product to do the investigation and analysis. Try to search for knew who the people associated with you, especially if you trust them by placing funds in large numbers. One other important thing is to learn the ins and outs of the business done, as was the case some time ago QSAR that much harm society. Do not sign the letter unless you've read and studied.
A word of warning is sounded quite loud and very suspicious. Most people are accustomed to trust others, especially when it comes to family finances. Learn and perform analysis relating to investments or investment decisions was very time consuming and tedious. However, by doing the above, only limited awalau basic knowledge, these steps can save your family finances in the future.
Know Your Financial Behavior
If you follow the development of investment or research with respect to investment, financial behavior was very important role in decision making regarding investment person. Sometimes the attitude or decision that resulted in losses for investors. Actually, before making financial decisions, it will be heavily influenced by emotion or behavior, your knowledge regarding the investment. With includes emotions in financial decision you do not realize sometimes even causing harm.
Overconfidence (excessive self-confidence), for example, is one of emotional behaviors that can lead to losses in investment. We are individual investors, with limited time and knowledge makes us very vulnerable to losses in investment. Although a competent analyst on the stock market is still frequently make mistakes in investing. So the level of excessive self-confidence and of course you endanger your financial future.
Greed greed or can be interpreted as confidence levels are too high for the stock market or other investment vehicles, and this is very dangerous to the health of your family finances.
When investing in shares a lot of people very confident and focused only on the level of expected return and risk forgetting that also contained therein. Perhaps this is also happening with the investors who invest their money in the PT. QSAR, where they only see one side of the coin the eyes and focused investment with fantastic returns and to forget that business is agribusiness may also experience losses, even Bob Sadino say, invest in agribusiness should be prepared to lose money.
After everything's done, the public investment money numbering not less than Rp 500 billion evaporated, the new investors was busy asking his investment money.
In our opinion, you as an individual must be aware and look at both sides of the investment currency. High rate of return must be balanced with the appropriate risk level. Do not be easily persuaded only by persuasion or seduction seller but to learn and study first, do not make decisions based solely on your emotions.
One thing that often makes the failure to invest or family financial goals, in our opinion, is a failure and the last step is melaksankan implement perencanaa that have been made.
They create a comprehensive plan and take a long time, but they forget to do one thing more, which is carrying out those plans. Some of them are counted for purposes of investment needs fund their children's education, but they did not do it. Such behavior is very common, where they often delay to implement the plan. They say, tomorrow, next week I was busy or various other reasons. Habits to delay implementation of a plan can be fatal for the family's financial future.
Keeping the Dream Yourself From Seller
Indonesia's economy is still not good, could be the cause of many popping up various offers promising investment doubled profits to zero?? risk. Many people are tempted by the offer of this type of investment, profits doubled in a short time.
We as a family financial planner is expected that you as a consumer alert about this, check before buying. Because many of the offer was just a blank pepesan. Expect profits doubled in a short time, who obtained only a loss and can cause damage to the family's financial arrangements that have been awakened.
Some things you can do to keep the income you get from the hard work of every month from sales of investment only a dream.
Diversification
In this case instead of allocating the funds you have in some types of assets or of the same asset classes in different types, but more to see than the placement of several investment companies.
In some cases, the vendors of the company's investment securities could give a promise that the funds in these companies must provide benefits to you. But remember that nothing is certain in investing. Except when you invest in the form of savings that were guaranteed by the government. It is also in the event of liquidation of the bank, require a long time for you to get back the funds owned.
One thing is important in keeping yourself from investment sales is the dream you hold back. Investment company sales promotion dream was always doing or advertising in various media, both print and TV. All this they do to be able to recruit as many investors-many. This is never done by Gee Cosmos, in which they do almost all the advertising print media that is superior in Jakarta. There is no definite steps in order to overcome this. but some things below you can do before you make decisions related to various investments offer you do not know:
Always check any offers of investment. Do not be too affected by the incessant ads done everywhere. The most important thing is whether you have mastered the rule of The Game??. Do not invest before you really did understand the workings of the investment. Remember, the investment risk could be reduced if you do master the intricacies of investment.
When you've mastered how it works, see if you can at any time monitor or monitor the progress of your investments do. When very difficult to obtain information about the investment growth you do then do not do investment patterns.
Note the credibility and bonafiditas of companies offering these investments. A company that provides investment offer to the public should have the credibility and good bonafiditas. Sometimes people only see the credibility of a company alone but do not know and recognize the selected investment.
Finally, be careful in the use or allocate your monthly income. Do not be easily persuaded and regret it later. Hopefully this review memeberikan much input to you all. n
Taken from Harian Umum Sore Sinar Harapan Newsroom FINANCIAL PLANNING. This rubric was raised by Team Indonesia School of Life (ISOL) ie Harefa Andrias, Roy Sembel, M. Ichsan, Heru authority, and Parpudi Lubis.
Although the decision was felt to be painful, but this error is not fatal when associated with the family finances but this might not be inevitable despite the best analysts in seoarang capital markets even. But some mistakes that you want to avoid can be very costly or damaging the family's financial arrangements that have been built. Below we give some possible errors regarding the family finances:
* Invest money that you get from the hard work each month just because advertising and promotion tantalizing promise high interest rates and risks could almost say no.
* Purchase insurance life insurance does not meet your needs. You buy insurance with coverage that is too small.
* Failure in investment as early as possible, for long-term financial goals, such as children's education expenses or retirement funds.
Fortunately, such mistakes above you can avoid by taking or learning some basic knowledge of family finances. Like, the decision to buy insurance, we have discussed how to assess the needs and pentinganya insurance for the survival of family life when things happen unexpectedly. Or for long term planning, such as children's education funds or retirement, we also have to explain how to assess those needs and how to save early, providing greater benefits to you.
In relation to financial decision errors, especially investment, we try to give some insights and steps to be on guard, so that decisions you make are not actually damage the family's financial situation in the future. This is related to the emergence of a fake company? investment offering a high level of guaranteed benefits with the risk that virtually no one.
Old rules are forgotten
Many of the rules that have long circulated in the community and have very clear needs, but it is often ignored and forgotten. For example, if you want to buy an investment product to do the investigation and analysis. Try to search for knew who the people associated with you, especially if you trust them by placing funds in large numbers. One other important thing is to learn the ins and outs of the business done, as was the case some time ago QSAR that much harm society. Do not sign the letter unless you've read and studied.
A word of warning is sounded quite loud and very suspicious. Most people are accustomed to trust others, especially when it comes to family finances. Learn and perform analysis relating to investments or investment decisions was very time consuming and tedious. However, by doing the above, only limited awalau basic knowledge, these steps can save your family finances in the future.
Know Your Financial Behavior
If you follow the development of investment or research with respect to investment, financial behavior was very important role in decision making regarding investment person. Sometimes the attitude or decision that resulted in losses for investors. Actually, before making financial decisions, it will be heavily influenced by emotion or behavior, your knowledge regarding the investment. With includes emotions in financial decision you do not realize sometimes even causing harm.
Overconfidence (excessive self-confidence), for example, is one of emotional behaviors that can lead to losses in investment. We are individual investors, with limited time and knowledge makes us very vulnerable to losses in investment. Although a competent analyst on the stock market is still frequently make mistakes in investing. So the level of excessive self-confidence and of course you endanger your financial future.
Greed greed or can be interpreted as confidence levels are too high for the stock market or other investment vehicles, and this is very dangerous to the health of your family finances.
When investing in shares a lot of people very confident and focused only on the level of expected return and risk forgetting that also contained therein. Perhaps this is also happening with the investors who invest their money in the PT. QSAR, where they only see one side of the coin the eyes and focused investment with fantastic returns and to forget that business is agribusiness may also experience losses, even Bob Sadino say, invest in agribusiness should be prepared to lose money.
After everything's done, the public investment money numbering not less than Rp 500 billion evaporated, the new investors was busy asking his investment money.
In our opinion, you as an individual must be aware and look at both sides of the investment currency. High rate of return must be balanced with the appropriate risk level. Do not be easily persuaded only by persuasion or seduction seller but to learn and study first, do not make decisions based solely on your emotions.
One thing that often makes the failure to invest or family financial goals, in our opinion, is a failure and the last step is melaksankan implement perencanaa that have been made.
They create a comprehensive plan and take a long time, but they forget to do one thing more, which is carrying out those plans. Some of them are counted for purposes of investment needs fund their children's education, but they did not do it. Such behavior is very common, where they often delay to implement the plan. They say, tomorrow, next week I was busy or various other reasons. Habits to delay implementation of a plan can be fatal for the family's financial future.
Keeping the Dream Yourself From Seller
Indonesia's economy is still not good, could be the cause of many popping up various offers promising investment doubled profits to zero?? risk. Many people are tempted by the offer of this type of investment, profits doubled in a short time.
We as a family financial planner is expected that you as a consumer alert about this, check before buying. Because many of the offer was just a blank pepesan. Expect profits doubled in a short time, who obtained only a loss and can cause damage to the family's financial arrangements that have been awakened.
Some things you can do to keep the income you get from the hard work of every month from sales of investment only a dream.
Diversification
In this case instead of allocating the funds you have in some types of assets or of the same asset classes in different types, but more to see than the placement of several investment companies.
In some cases, the vendors of the company's investment securities could give a promise that the funds in these companies must provide benefits to you. But remember that nothing is certain in investing. Except when you invest in the form of savings that were guaranteed by the government. It is also in the event of liquidation of the bank, require a long time for you to get back the funds owned.
One thing is important in keeping yourself from investment sales is the dream you hold back. Investment company sales promotion dream was always doing or advertising in various media, both print and TV. All this they do to be able to recruit as many investors-many. This is never done by Gee Cosmos, in which they do almost all the advertising print media that is superior in Jakarta. There is no definite steps in order to overcome this. but some things below you can do before you make decisions related to various investments offer you do not know:
Always check any offers of investment. Do not be too affected by the incessant ads done everywhere. The most important thing is whether you have mastered the rule of The Game??. Do not invest before you really did understand the workings of the investment. Remember, the investment risk could be reduced if you do master the intricacies of investment.
When you've mastered how it works, see if you can at any time monitor or monitor the progress of your investments do. When very difficult to obtain information about the investment growth you do then do not do investment patterns.
Note the credibility and bonafiditas of companies offering these investments. A company that provides investment offer to the public should have the credibility and good bonafiditas. Sometimes people only see the credibility of a company alone but do not know and recognize the selected investment.
Finally, be careful in the use or allocate your monthly income. Do not be easily persuaded and regret it later. Hopefully this review memeberikan much input to you all. n
Taken from Harian Umum Sore Sinar Harapan Newsroom FINANCIAL PLANNING. This rubric was raised by Team Indonesia School of Life (ISOL) ie Harefa Andrias, Roy Sembel, M. Ichsan, Heru authority, and Parpudi Lubis.
Responsive Learning Life
Today before you say the words that are not good,
Think about someone who can not speak at all
Before you complain about the taste of food,
Think about someone who did not have anything to eat
Before you complain do not have anything
Think about someone who beg in the streets.
Before you complain that you're bad,
Think about someone who is at the worst level in their life.
Before you complain about your husband or wife.
Think about someone who begged the Lord to be given a life
Today before you complain about your life,
Think about someone who died too soon
Before you complain about your children,
Think about someone who really wants to have children but she was barren
Before you complain about a dirty house because the helpers did not do his job,
Think about the people living on the streets yag
Before you complain about the distance you have to drive,
Think about someone who covered the same distance by walking
And while you are tired and complain about your job,
Think of the unemployed, disabled people who wish they had a job like you.
Before you show the finger and blame someone else,
remember that no one is without sin
We all answer to the Creator
And when you're sad and your life is in distress,
Smile and thank God that you're still alive!
Life is a gift
Live it ...
Enjoy it ...
Celebrate it ...
And fulfill it.
Love others with words and deeds
Love is created not to be stored or hidden
You do not love someone because he's pretty or handsome,
They're pretty / beautiful because you love her
It's true you do not know what you've got until it's gone, but it's
also true You do not know what you've been missing until it arrives!
Think about someone who can not speak at all
Before you complain about the taste of food,
Think about someone who did not have anything to eat
Before you complain do not have anything
Think about someone who beg in the streets.
Before you complain that you're bad,
Think about someone who is at the worst level in their life.
Before you complain about your husband or wife.
Think about someone who begged the Lord to be given a life
Today before you complain about your life,
Think about someone who died too soon
Before you complain about your children,
Think about someone who really wants to have children but she was barren
Before you complain about a dirty house because the helpers did not do his job,
Think about the people living on the streets yag
Before you complain about the distance you have to drive,
Think about someone who covered the same distance by walking
And while you are tired and complain about your job,
Think of the unemployed, disabled people who wish they had a job like you.
Before you show the finger and blame someone else,
remember that no one is without sin
We all answer to the Creator
And when you're sad and your life is in distress,
Smile and thank God that you're still alive!
Life is a gift
Live it ...
Enjoy it ...
Celebrate it ...
And fulfill it.
Love others with words and deeds
Love is created not to be stored or hidden
You do not love someone because he's pretty or handsome,
They're pretty / beautiful because you love her
It's true you do not know what you've got until it's gone, but it's
also true You do not know what you've been missing until it arrives!
Dec 3, 2009
How to Solve the Problem
You feel less satisfied with what you get this far? what you feel like improving what is on your self?
Do not need all the way to find a way, a solution, how, processes, advice, advice, a significant writings in the .. This is the place, space, purpose, to change your life, NOW.
Many of you-you who feel awkward, bewildered, confused as to appear on "stage" this is what causes a condition where you could do something good, auat can not find a way, a solution, a powerful trick of a problem very out of habit.
Problems and habits very closely related, why? You'll find the answer if you are thinking with your heart.
What? think with your heart? how?
So, think with your heart is doing the thinking process that racked his brains to find the best solution and the interests of all concerned public and rely on social norms of legal binding.
Was able to answer the connection between habits and problems?
okay, if not you can re-think with your heart and be careful.
Now talking about the problem, we know all the people no one wants to be involved, entangled, bound, linked, locked, interrupted by a problem in life. Therefore, we must be able to deal with it, How?
Haha, you no longer need to associate the problem with the habit, because your heart is the decisive
Okay, back to how to solve the problem
There are two types of people in dealing with issues or problems, whether in work or social life. Two types are reactive (reacting so problems come) and receptive (to accept the problem).
Reactive Approach
They are reactive usually see a problem as a threat. Whether the threat to his career, business, family, and so on. In this group you find a solution to the problem by using logical and traditional approaches. Characteristics:
* Once the problem you're likely to soon come looking for any way to overcome it.
* The problem is seen as factors inhibiting the development of self.
* You will soon develop strategies to deal with problems
* Because the problem is seen as a threat, he will dominate the mind and tend to cause anxiety and stress.
If you work in a company, you probably never asked to lead a project in which you are responsible for achieving certain targets. Here you are faced with situations requiring analysis, justification, and logical thinking dalan challenges or problems that arise. You will be in a depressed condition to meet the deadline. Predictably, you'll tend to use a reactive approach in solving problems.
Receptive Approach
This approach is usually practiced by those who have realized that the problem is not a threat but rather the consequences of a condition that we create. Therefore, we have the power to change these conditions from within ourselves. You will receive the problem and at the same time making solusinya.Ciri-character:
When trouble comes, you recognize it and use the approach:
* The problem is the opposite of the solution. When problems arise, you believe then that the solution already exists.
* You focus on the solution of problems arising, not on the cause of the problem. Thus, you take over control of yourself, rather than controlled by external circumstances.
* The problem is an opportunity for self-development. You see it as an opportunity to create a positive reality in your life.
Willing to accept the problem does not mean silence. You do not "anger" but recognized the problem calmly and make yourself responsive to everything you need to invite solutions.
The simplest example is when the spouse you love (eg wife, husband, or boyfriend) is sulking because a trivial matter. With a reactive approach, you will only make matters worse by wondering why he had to withdraw, analyze the cause and feel this condition would threaten the harmony of your relationship with him. Not Found solution but rather the anxiety and worry.
Receptive approach, you accept and realize that your partner is angry. You focus your energy to create the love that is basically the opposite of anger. You are not late getting carried away - trying to find the answer from the analysis of why he was so angry - but it took over control from within yourself, stay calm thinking, and showed a positive attitude in your behavior. You will feel that being in this situation would make you grow. You make a positive quality about yourself to surface and have become the law of nature to behave this way your partner will undoubtedly change from anger to love.
This receptive approach to practice in the life of your business, household, and social. Essentially you build confidence that the problem is not real so you do not feel burdened. Train yourself to not reactive when a problem arise. Focus yourself on the opposite of the problem, namely the solution, to find the controls rather than late in the problem.
Do not need all the way to find a way, a solution, how, processes, advice, advice, a significant writings in the .. This is the place, space, purpose, to change your life, NOW.
Many of you-you who feel awkward, bewildered, confused as to appear on "stage" this is what causes a condition where you could do something good, auat can not find a way, a solution, a powerful trick of a problem very out of habit.
Problems and habits very closely related, why? You'll find the answer if you are thinking with your heart.
What? think with your heart? how?
So, think with your heart is doing the thinking process that racked his brains to find the best solution and the interests of all concerned public and rely on social norms of legal binding.
Was able to answer the connection between habits and problems?
okay, if not you can re-think with your heart and be careful.
Now talking about the problem, we know all the people no one wants to be involved, entangled, bound, linked, locked, interrupted by a problem in life. Therefore, we must be able to deal with it, How?
Haha, you no longer need to associate the problem with the habit, because your heart is the decisive
Okay, back to how to solve the problem
There are two types of people in dealing with issues or problems, whether in work or social life. Two types are reactive (reacting so problems come) and receptive (to accept the problem).
Reactive Approach
They are reactive usually see a problem as a threat. Whether the threat to his career, business, family, and so on. In this group you find a solution to the problem by using logical and traditional approaches. Characteristics:
* Once the problem you're likely to soon come looking for any way to overcome it.
* The problem is seen as factors inhibiting the development of self.
* You will soon develop strategies to deal with problems
* Because the problem is seen as a threat, he will dominate the mind and tend to cause anxiety and stress.
If you work in a company, you probably never asked to lead a project in which you are responsible for achieving certain targets. Here you are faced with situations requiring analysis, justification, and logical thinking dalan challenges or problems that arise. You will be in a depressed condition to meet the deadline. Predictably, you'll tend to use a reactive approach in solving problems.
Receptive Approach
This approach is usually practiced by those who have realized that the problem is not a threat but rather the consequences of a condition that we create. Therefore, we have the power to change these conditions from within ourselves. You will receive the problem and at the same time making solusinya.Ciri-character:
When trouble comes, you recognize it and use the approach:
* The problem is the opposite of the solution. When problems arise, you believe then that the solution already exists.
* You focus on the solution of problems arising, not on the cause of the problem. Thus, you take over control of yourself, rather than controlled by external circumstances.
* The problem is an opportunity for self-development. You see it as an opportunity to create a positive reality in your life.
Willing to accept the problem does not mean silence. You do not "anger" but recognized the problem calmly and make yourself responsive to everything you need to invite solutions.
The simplest example is when the spouse you love (eg wife, husband, or boyfriend) is sulking because a trivial matter. With a reactive approach, you will only make matters worse by wondering why he had to withdraw, analyze the cause and feel this condition would threaten the harmony of your relationship with him. Not Found solution but rather the anxiety and worry.
Receptive approach, you accept and realize that your partner is angry. You focus your energy to create the love that is basically the opposite of anger. You are not late getting carried away - trying to find the answer from the analysis of why he was so angry - but it took over control from within yourself, stay calm thinking, and showed a positive attitude in your behavior. You will feel that being in this situation would make you grow. You make a positive quality about yourself to surface and have become the law of nature to behave this way your partner will undoubtedly change from anger to love.
This receptive approach to practice in the life of your business, household, and social. Essentially you build confidence that the problem is not real so you do not feel burdened. Train yourself to not reactive when a problem arise. Focus yourself on the opposite of the problem, namely the solution, to find the controls rather than late in the problem.
Learners
Every second is an arc of time off quickly when he walked.
We will never thought would be so fast perputarannya.
So fast that every moment will be gone so quickly.
In this process only a few people who survive long enough.
He never lost from a policy, he also always be adaptive when the environment changes.
He was the man who continues to act learners observe and think with your heart and mind.
He will always appreciate a process of life as a medium to learn something.
No single moment is wasted in vain, because of the learning time is a means to learn.
Wherever, Whenever, Whoever He Always With Learning ....
Because he is a person who is aware of a lesson from the events of life.
Because he was a learner.
We will never thought would be so fast perputarannya.
So fast that every moment will be gone so quickly.
In this process only a few people who survive long enough.
He never lost from a policy, he also always be adaptive when the environment changes.
He was the man who continues to act learners observe and think with your heart and mind.
He will always appreciate a process of life as a medium to learn something.
No single moment is wasted in vain, because of the learning time is a means to learn.
Wherever, Whenever, Whoever He Always With Learning ....
Because he is a person who is aware of a lesson from the events of life.
Because he was a learner.
The spirit of the controller
Morale was born from a decision
He always followed the will of the controlling decisions
Who controls the decision?
He is a born of a struggle for self-responsibility for their own
He gives full control room to determine their future
With a piercing gaze control of his life when he is to achieve a dream and the dream
Not everyone can be a controller, but due to a small part of our Take it that we can be winners
Do not hesitate my friend?
During our thinking opportunities without limits, we can be ourselves controller
We can always show great spirit in every movement and move us
Only one easy step ... buddies.
Decided to become a controller at us today, right now ....
He always followed the will of the controlling decisions
Who controls the decision?
He is a born of a struggle for self-responsibility for their own
He gives full control room to determine their future
With a piercing gaze control of his life when he is to achieve a dream and the dream
Not everyone can be a controller, but due to a small part of our Take it that we can be winners
Do not hesitate my friend?
During our thinking opportunities without limits, we can be ourselves controller
We can always show great spirit in every movement and move us
Only one easy step ... buddies.
Decided to become a controller at us today, right now ....
Other Side of Life
Each of us has a prominent role in the life
There is a dominant role there is also a small role
Whatever it is, all the colors that brighten our lives
Life will become interesting when the colors are served with sincerity
Strength-hearted will encourage us to see the best side of the journey of life
He will see the wisdom in a real sense
Let the black among the white, because it will clarify the different colors in life.
And let life run properly
Still does not mean there is no role in planning
Planning is evidence of the optimism we see the future and his Maker like the way we plan for the future
It's just that there is a very big plan behind all of our plans, desires wrapped in a plan may become a failure when all is not reached yet at a point of maturity we learn to see with the eye, for all policies
So there is always the best side of a secret life and travel
No one will know when all will be answered, but we will feel the journey and the process as an answer
There is a dominant role there is also a small role
Whatever it is, all the colors that brighten our lives
Life will become interesting when the colors are served with sincerity
Strength-hearted will encourage us to see the best side of the journey of life
He will see the wisdom in a real sense
Let the black among the white, because it will clarify the different colors in life.
And let life run properly
Still does not mean there is no role in planning
Planning is evidence of the optimism we see the future and his Maker like the way we plan for the future
It's just that there is a very big plan behind all of our plans, desires wrapped in a plan may become a failure when all is not reached yet at a point of maturity we learn to see with the eye, for all policies
So there is always the best side of a secret life and travel
No one will know when all will be answered, but we will feel the journey and the process as an answer
Strengthening Exercise
When all busy giving understanding and arguments about our lives.
So we are locked in a position where we must choose your perception or continue on a goal that we set.
At this time the momentum to strengthen the heart becomes a helper to the bridge can remain set hearts and our goals.
So that would be a question whether is how steady our hearts?
At the point in thinking establishment of a consistency to establish the liver may look easy, but not so for the souls who do not prepare the future outlook for life.
So what is wrong from all this?
Errors of all this is because we do not decide to establish ourselves as anything, most people have a tendency to look for. And the search was never realized what he was looking really there in front of his view.
Busyness routine makes things even more vague, until at last the shackles of time and materials to tie myself to know the meaning of real life. Until unconsciously when aging all become increasingly losing direction and maturity in acting.
This situation sometimes makes a zone of deep remorse and finally get someone in a dilemma situation.
So the only way to be a consistent person who is to decide the best thing for us right now and let someone else bragging aimlessly.
We only know what is best for us.
Only we who understand ourselves more than others.
That's why we live ....
So we are locked in a position where we must choose your perception or continue on a goal that we set.
At this time the momentum to strengthen the heart becomes a helper to the bridge can remain set hearts and our goals.
So that would be a question whether is how steady our hearts?
At the point in thinking establishment of a consistency to establish the liver may look easy, but not so for the souls who do not prepare the future outlook for life.
So what is wrong from all this?
Errors of all this is because we do not decide to establish ourselves as anything, most people have a tendency to look for. And the search was never realized what he was looking really there in front of his view.
Busyness routine makes things even more vague, until at last the shackles of time and materials to tie myself to know the meaning of real life. Until unconsciously when aging all become increasingly losing direction and maturity in acting.
This situation sometimes makes a zone of deep remorse and finally get someone in a dilemma situation.
So the only way to be a consistent person who is to decide the best thing for us right now and let someone else bragging aimlessly.
We only know what is best for us.
Only we who understand ourselves more than others.
That's why we live ....
Frugal Living
Own life feel far away from their parents and relatives, let alone other communities ditengah2 life-style cultures, languages and different ethnic certainly very uncomfortable, but it is a risk of the nomads. If in this country living with his parents, everything has been fulfilled, not eat to live say to the mother ... hungry then, no money is ask, trus aka ngabur loaf. Several years ago I was trying to decide my financial dependence on parents. From then on my own, so I felt it that it was hard earn money is not playing, so remember how huge mega services that have been the father of the bone slam provide for the needs of clothing, food and shelter my family, certainly a good reason parents can not return , only to be done is to lighten the load, pray for him, trying to live independently is one of them.
Talk about independence, surely a man should have the provision of early life skills / skill and knowledge / science, when man has had the above provisions where people live then he would be able to feed herself and even including orang2 around. People who have self-will attempt to upgrade the quality of life, this is a natural trend / sunatullah, that human love of beauty, good vehicles, stately homes and beautiful life partner. But to achieve these objectives the human world must be confronted by a one time masalah2 hardship to forge a person becomes a patient and wise.
I'm having a difficult time, the final task is not finished, the spirit which descended grastis, financial condition requires us to taste good so good at playing brain-how we get through the difficulties of life. Well .. following tips are a party of 1001 kinds of frugal living tips.
1. Eating perfunctory, why? because eating is one of the biggest expenses of our income. But remember not to eat home, stay healthy demand 5 perfect 4th. Cooking at home is saving effort because if we eat outside its frequency would be 2-3 times the budget out of our house.
2. Reduce eye wash, hehehhe:) means window shopping. Because this frequency will result in WAS it easier to spend our earnings for new goods. Whereas there barang2 home is still functioning properly.
3. Use public transportation, oooo so sure is, most comfortable bike here, if you just do not have to keliling2 city bus, even though I have 1 ticket in the summer semester, but this bike is a vehicle with high mobility, all sports.
4. Use lights with light sensor, is a breakthrough in sensor technology world. The lamp will light up if there are people around these lights, so if no one turns off automatically this will save electricity consumption costs. But the difficulty must diindo ya kalo dark house siap2 thief entered.
5. Reduce to menelfon and SMS. Use telfon for essential, if only telfon miss some time so they can save expenses. I sometimes fill pulse telfon 6 months, telfon to Indonesia / home 2 weeks 1 month even no tlp.
6. If you can cook for 3 meals, do it. Reduce the cooking more than 1 time, so it can fuel mengirit cooking / frying oil, gas, electricity, kerosene.
7. Avoid unnecessary meetings, because usually we have to spend money for the meeting, costs toward the meeting place, the social cost of meeting (smoking, eating and drinking) unless they are bayarin / Free) heheheh:)
8. Use of goods during the still functioning well, the good care that was not damaged before their time.
9. Exercise that we spend enough to avoid paying fees to doctors and medicine, because we always maintain good health.
10. Try to take a vacation not too far from your home, do not have to rent a vacation resort with 1 -2 weeks stay, you live your vacation by visiting the companion taulan parents relatives, your friends or simply greet your neighbors.
Talk about independence, surely a man should have the provision of early life skills / skill and knowledge / science, when man has had the above provisions where people live then he would be able to feed herself and even including orang2 around. People who have self-will attempt to upgrade the quality of life, this is a natural trend / sunatullah, that human love of beauty, good vehicles, stately homes and beautiful life partner. But to achieve these objectives the human world must be confronted by a one time masalah2 hardship to forge a person becomes a patient and wise.
I'm having a difficult time, the final task is not finished, the spirit which descended grastis, financial condition requires us to taste good so good at playing brain-how we get through the difficulties of life. Well .. following tips are a party of 1001 kinds of frugal living tips.
1. Eating perfunctory, why? because eating is one of the biggest expenses of our income. But remember not to eat home, stay healthy demand 5 perfect 4th. Cooking at home is saving effort because if we eat outside its frequency would be 2-3 times the budget out of our house.
2. Reduce eye wash, hehehhe:) means window shopping. Because this frequency will result in WAS it easier to spend our earnings for new goods. Whereas there barang2 home is still functioning properly.
3. Use public transportation, oooo so sure is, most comfortable bike here, if you just do not have to keliling2 city bus, even though I have 1 ticket in the summer semester, but this bike is a vehicle with high mobility, all sports.
4. Use lights with light sensor, is a breakthrough in sensor technology world. The lamp will light up if there are people around these lights, so if no one turns off automatically this will save electricity consumption costs. But the difficulty must diindo ya kalo dark house siap2 thief entered.
5. Reduce to menelfon and SMS. Use telfon for essential, if only telfon miss some time so they can save expenses. I sometimes fill pulse telfon 6 months, telfon to Indonesia / home 2 weeks 1 month even no tlp.
6. If you can cook for 3 meals, do it. Reduce the cooking more than 1 time, so it can fuel mengirit cooking / frying oil, gas, electricity, kerosene.
7. Avoid unnecessary meetings, because usually we have to spend money for the meeting, costs toward the meeting place, the social cost of meeting (smoking, eating and drinking) unless they are bayarin / Free) heheheh:)
8. Use of goods during the still functioning well, the good care that was not damaged before their time.
9. Exercise that we spend enough to avoid paying fees to doctors and medicine, because we always maintain good health.
10. Try to take a vacation not too far from your home, do not have to rent a vacation resort with 1 -2 weeks stay, you live your vacation by visiting the companion taulan parents relatives, your friends or simply greet your neighbors.
HAPPY LIVING TIPS
1. Thinking and Grateful
2. Let Past Away
3. Today's your day ...
4. Until Future Let It Come
5. Allow and ignore the criticism hurts your rake
6. Do not Wait Acknowledgment of One
7. Doing Good to Others
8. Filling Spend time with Work
9. Not So Chameleon
10. Instill faith in the plates' and Qadar
11. Be assured, With Difficulties There is Ease
12. Make a Sweet Drink from Lemon
13. Pray
14. Let Your house Menaungimu
15. Search for Successor of Allaah
16. Filling Life with Faith
17. Take Honey, But No Damage nest
18. Remembering God
19. Avoiding Envy
20. Accepting life as it is
21. Entertaining Disaster Affected People
22. Prayer ... Prayer
23. Making God the Helper and Protector of the Best
24. Wandering in the Earth Home
25. Neither patient with
26. Ball Do not Bring Up the World in your head
27. Do not Worry as a trivial case
28. Receiving Part of God by Ridha
29. Remind Yourself to Paradise as wide as Heaven and Earth
30. Human Being Fair
2. Let Past Away
3. Today's your day ...
4. Until Future Let It Come
5. Allow and ignore the criticism hurts your rake
6. Do not Wait Acknowledgment of One
7. Doing Good to Others
8. Filling Spend time with Work
9. Not So Chameleon
10. Instill faith in the plates' and Qadar
11. Be assured, With Difficulties There is Ease
12. Make a Sweet Drink from Lemon
13. Pray
14. Let Your house Menaungimu
15. Search for Successor of Allaah
16. Filling Life with Faith
17. Take Honey, But No Damage nest
18. Remembering God
19. Avoiding Envy
20. Accepting life as it is
21. Entertaining Disaster Affected People
22. Prayer ... Prayer
23. Making God the Helper and Protector of the Best
24. Wandering in the Earth Home
25. Neither patient with
26. Ball Do not Bring Up the World in your head
27. Do not Worry as a trivial case
28. Receiving Part of God by Ridha
29. Remind Yourself to Paradise as wide as Heaven and Earth
30. Human Being Fair
What is Success?
I received a thought-provoking e-mail from a guy who claimed he was following his passion by being a professional gambler. As a result, he had incurred a backbreaking debt for himself. He asked me if he had wasted his time and should he do something else.
I told him that if we accept the concept that everyone has a purpose in life, then I could not imagine anyone being put on this earth for the purpose of being a professional gambler. A purpose in life (or calling) has to be evolutionary.Otherwise, what’s the point? Through your calling, you make a contribution to yourself, your society and your environment. Gambling, on the other hand, is devoid of any redeeming value. At best, it is a zero sum game because with every winner there is a loser. I suggested that he find something that is win-win-win-win. In other words, do something where he wins, the customer wins, the community wins, and the environment wins.
In my response to this man, I opined that doing something where the sole motivating focus is acquiring money is not the formula for success and, in fact, is a waste of life. He tried to defend himself by saying his focus was not on money per se and that he only wanted the money for the freedom and comfort that it would bring. (Frankly, I didn’t see how that view was any different from how everyone else in the world views money.)
Unfortunately, most people view success in terms of money and what it can buy. But to me that is an inadequate characterization of success. If we look deeply into money, we can’t help but see that it is a fraud. Money is an illusion. Governments have declared money to have value. And we all go along with it. But let’s face it, the emperor has no clothes. Even the agreed upon value of money is eroding over time. The air is being let out of the balloon and the dollar is worth less and less each day. The trend is toward it being worth nothing.
Besides, even if we agree to go along with the pretense that money has value, no matter who we are, we never seem to be satisfied with how much money we have. People who have more money than God try to get richer. Why? Beats me. They have multiples more than they could ever spend in their lifetimes yet they want more.
Money is intrinsically unsatisfying, probably because it cannot buy the most valuable things in life - health, friendship, love, a fantastic golf shot, etc. Therefore, I, by fiat, am declaring that success shall hence forth be defined without using money as a measuring rod.
True success will now be defined in terms of fulfillment. If you are experiencing joy while doing what you are doing, you are successful. If your activity is making a meaningful contribution to society and the environment, you are successful. If you are reveling in a progressive collaboration, you are successful. If your intelligence and creativity are being challenged and are growing, you are successful. If you are giving people value, you are successful. If you are happy in the doing, then, with each step, you arrive. Why? Because you are already there.
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I told him that if we accept the concept that everyone has a purpose in life, then I could not imagine anyone being put on this earth for the purpose of being a professional gambler. A purpose in life (or calling) has to be evolutionary.Otherwise, what’s the point? Through your calling, you make a contribution to yourself, your society and your environment. Gambling, on the other hand, is devoid of any redeeming value. At best, it is a zero sum game because with every winner there is a loser. I suggested that he find something that is win-win-win-win. In other words, do something where he wins, the customer wins, the community wins, and the environment wins.
In my response to this man, I opined that doing something where the sole motivating focus is acquiring money is not the formula for success and, in fact, is a waste of life. He tried to defend himself by saying his focus was not on money per se and that he only wanted the money for the freedom and comfort that it would bring. (Frankly, I didn’t see how that view was any different from how everyone else in the world views money.)
Unfortunately, most people view success in terms of money and what it can buy. But to me that is an inadequate characterization of success. If we look deeply into money, we can’t help but see that it is a fraud. Money is an illusion. Governments have declared money to have value. And we all go along with it. But let’s face it, the emperor has no clothes. Even the agreed upon value of money is eroding over time. The air is being let out of the balloon and the dollar is worth less and less each day. The trend is toward it being worth nothing.
Besides, even if we agree to go along with the pretense that money has value, no matter who we are, we never seem to be satisfied with how much money we have. People who have more money than God try to get richer. Why? Beats me. They have multiples more than they could ever spend in their lifetimes yet they want more.
Money is intrinsically unsatisfying, probably because it cannot buy the most valuable things in life - health, friendship, love, a fantastic golf shot, etc. Therefore, I, by fiat, am declaring that success shall hence forth be defined without using money as a measuring rod.
True success will now be defined in terms of fulfillment. If you are experiencing joy while doing what you are doing, you are successful. If your activity is making a meaningful contribution to society and the environment, you are successful. If you are reveling in a progressive collaboration, you are successful. If your intelligence and creativity are being challenged and are growing, you are successful. If you are giving people value, you are successful. If you are happy in the doing, then, with each step, you arrive. Why? Because you are already there.
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Taking Life Tips
1. Do not go for looks, because it can deceive. Do not go for wealth, because wealth can be destroyed. Attracted to someone who makes you smile, because only a smile that can make the days of darkness seem bright. Hope you find someone like that.
2. There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them up from your dreams and hug them. Hope you dream of people like that.
3. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want, because you have only one life and one chance to do the things you want to do.
4. Hope you have enough happiness to make you good, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy and enough money to buy gifts.
5. When one door of happiness close, another door opened. But often we stare so long at the closed door, so do not see another door opened for us.
6. The best friend is he who can sit swinging on the porch with you, without saying a word, and then you're left with the feeling of having a long conversation with him.
7.Sungguh true that we do not know what we belonged until we lose it, but it's also true that we do not know what we've been missing until it arrives.
8. Look at everything through the lens of someone else. If it hurts you, it probably does hurt itupula people.
9. The words spoken at random may kindle strife. The words are cruel to destroy a life. The words spoken in place to ease the tension. The words of love can heal and bless.
10. The beginning of love is to let those we love be themselves, and not turn it into a picture that we inginkan.Jika not, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
11. The happiest people do not always have the best things, they just make the best of everything that comes along in life.
12. Maybe God wants us to meet with some of the wrong people before meeting the right person, we should know how to thank you for that gift.
13. It takes only a minute to assess a person, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
14. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who seek and those who try. Because only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
15. Love is when you lose the feeling, the passion, the romance you still care for him.
16. The sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you and find out in the end that is not bound to be and you have to let go.
17. Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
18. Love comes to those who still hope even though've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though've been betrayed, to those who still love even though've been hurt before.
19. It hurts to love someone who does not love you, but more painful is to love someone and never have the courage to express your love to him.
20. The brightest future will always depend on a forgotten past, you can not survive well if you do not forget the failures and heartaches in the past.
21. Never say goodbye when you still want to try, never give up if you still feel you can never say you do not love him anymore if you can not let go.
22. Giving all your love to someone is no guarantee he'll return your love! Do not expect love in return, just wait until the love growing in his heart, but if not, be content it grew dihatimu.
23. There are things that really wants you to hear but you would never hear from the people you expect to say it. However, do not be deaf to hear from people who say it with all my heart.
24. When you were born, you cried and the people around you smiling - Live your life so that when you die, you smile and the people around you cry.
2. There are moments in life when you really miss someone that you want to pick them up from your dreams and hug them. Hope you dream of people like that.
3. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go, be what you want, because you have only one life and one chance to do the things you want to do.
4. Hope you have enough happiness to make you good, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy and enough money to buy gifts.
5. When one door of happiness close, another door opened. But often we stare so long at the closed door, so do not see another door opened for us.
6. The best friend is he who can sit swinging on the porch with you, without saying a word, and then you're left with the feeling of having a long conversation with him.
7.Sungguh true that we do not know what we belonged until we lose it, but it's also true that we do not know what we've been missing until it arrives.
8. Look at everything through the lens of someone else. If it hurts you, it probably does hurt itupula people.
9. The words spoken at random may kindle strife. The words are cruel to destroy a life. The words spoken in place to ease the tension. The words of love can heal and bless.
10. The beginning of love is to let those we love be themselves, and not turn it into a picture that we inginkan.Jika not, we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.
11. The happiest people do not always have the best things, they just make the best of everything that comes along in life.
12. Maybe God wants us to meet with some of the wrong people before meeting the right person, we should know how to thank you for that gift.
13. It takes only a minute to assess a person, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
14. Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt, those who seek and those who try. Because only they can appreciate the importance of people who have touched their lives.
15. Love is when you lose the feeling, the passion, the romance you still care for him.
16. The sad thing in life is when you meet someone who means a lot to you and find out in the end that is not bound to be and you have to let go.
17. Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss and ends with a tear.
18. Love comes to those who still hope even though've been disappointed, to those who still believe even though've been betrayed, to those who still love even though've been hurt before.
19. It hurts to love someone who does not love you, but more painful is to love someone and never have the courage to express your love to him.
20. The brightest future will always depend on a forgotten past, you can not survive well if you do not forget the failures and heartaches in the past.
21. Never say goodbye when you still want to try, never give up if you still feel you can never say you do not love him anymore if you can not let go.
22. Giving all your love to someone is no guarantee he'll return your love! Do not expect love in return, just wait until the love growing in his heart, but if not, be content it grew dihatimu.
23. There are things that really wants you to hear but you would never hear from the people you expect to say it. However, do not be deaf to hear from people who say it with all my heart.
24. When you were born, you cried and the people around you smiling - Live your life so that when you die, you smile and the people around you cry.
10 Character and Character Winners Losers
Person's character can be seen from how he went through the challenges and solve problems. In the world of work would you find a lot of people with a variety of different characters. Here are 10 signs if someone falls into a winner or a loser characters:
1. When the winner made a mistake he said: "I was wrong!"
When the loser made a mistake he said, "this is not
my fault! "
2. Winner said, "I was good, but I can do better
again! "
Losers say, "I'm not as bad as anyone else!"
3. Winners try to learn from every person that is better than
at him.
Losers always try to knock other people with different
way.
4. Winner said, "let me do this for you!"
Losers say, "it's not my job!"
5. Winner said, "there must be a better way to do it!"
Losers say, "that's usually done here!"
6. Winner said, "is difficult but possible!"
Losers say, "this is possible but very difficult to
do! "
7. Winners always have plans.
Losers always look for reasons.
8. Winners have commitments.
Losers only promise-a promise only.
9. Winners are always part of the answer.
Losers always be a part of the problem.
10. Winner thoroughly solve the problem.
Losers always half the battle & was never solved
trouble.
1. When the winner made a mistake he said: "I was wrong!"
When the loser made a mistake he said, "this is not
my fault! "
2. Winner said, "I was good, but I can do better
again! "
Losers say, "I'm not as bad as anyone else!"
3. Winners try to learn from every person that is better than
at him.
Losers always try to knock other people with different
way.
4. Winner said, "let me do this for you!"
Losers say, "it's not my job!"
5. Winner said, "there must be a better way to do it!"
Losers say, "that's usually done here!"
6. Winner said, "is difficult but possible!"
Losers say, "this is possible but very difficult to
do! "
7. Winners always have plans.
Losers always look for reasons.
8. Winners have commitments.
Losers only promise-a promise only.
9. Winners are always part of the answer.
Losers always be a part of the problem.
10. Winner thoroughly solve the problem.
Losers always half the battle & was never solved
trouble.
Collection of Mario Teguh Motivation Tips
You must be familiar with the Inspirator Mario Teguh whose face is often adorned one of the private TV station in Jakarta, and also a move in the field of Efectiveness Bussiness Consultant. In addition to the shaded his face and his demeanor in delivering unique. Of course that would never be forgotten is the tips and motivation. Here are tips from Mario Teguh motivation hopefully be pumping the spirit of us who want to advance.
If you're right, do not be too bold and
if you're scared, do not be too scared.
Because balance is a critical attitude
accuracy of your success journey
Our job is not to succeed. Our task
is to try, because in trying to
that we find and learn to build
opportunity to succeed
You just close to them who you are
like. And you often avoid people
who do not you do not like, but from him
You will know a new perspective
People who stop learning will be
owner of the past. The people who are still
learning, will become the future owners
Forsake the pleasure of blocking
achievement of brilliance in life
ideal. And be careful, because some
pleasure is the happy way to
failure
Do not resist change just because you
afraid of losing that has been owned, since
with it you can lower the value
you achieve through the change
You will not get a new person when
you are determined to maintain the ways
your old one. You will be called new, only when
your ways new
The accuracy of attitude is the foundation of all accuracy.
There are no barriers of success if the attitude
your right, and no one can help
if you have the wrong attitude
Elderly people-oriented
opportunities are young people who do not
never grow old, but youth-oriented
on security, has been aging since the young
Only people who can dare to be afraid, because
courage is doing something that
feared. So, when he feels afraid, you will
have a chance to be brave
The biggest strength able to defeat
stress is the ability to choose thoughts
appropriate. You will be more peaceful if the
Your thinking is way out of trouble.
Do not ever tear down the fence without knowing
why was founded. Never ignore
guidance without knowing the bad good
then you can
Someone who refused to renew the ways
work is no longer produced, applicable
as people continue to squeeze the straw to
got milk
If you have not found a suitable job
with your talent, talent is any job
you are now. You will appear bright
talented
We have more respect for poor people who dare
than rich people who are cowards. Because
actually has a clear difference of quality
ahead of would like to achieve
If we only do what we
know, when we will get
new knowledge? Do not
we know is the door to knowledge
Do not just avoid the impossible.
By trying something that does not
maybe, you will be able to achieve the best
from which you may achieve.
One of the harshest diminution in life
is to let a brilliant mind
a slave to a lazy body, which
put to rest before fatigue.
If you are looking for money, you will be forced
best effort service.
But if you prioritize service
well, it is you who will find the money
Time, changing all things, except us. We
perhaps aging with time,
but not necessarily be wise. We who have
change ourselves
All the time is right time to
do something good. Do not be
parents who are still doing something
should be done when young.
There is no price on time, but time is very
worth. Choose a time does not make us
rich, but use it well
is the source of all wealth
If you're right, do not be too bold and
if you're scared, do not be too scared.
Because balance is a critical attitude
accuracy of your success journey
Our job is not to succeed. Our task
is to try, because in trying to
that we find and learn to build
opportunity to succeed
You just close to them who you are
like. And you often avoid people
who do not you do not like, but from him
You will know a new perspective
People who stop learning will be
owner of the past. The people who are still
learning, will become the future owners
Forsake the pleasure of blocking
achievement of brilliance in life
ideal. And be careful, because some
pleasure is the happy way to
failure
Do not resist change just because you
afraid of losing that has been owned, since
with it you can lower the value
you achieve through the change
You will not get a new person when
you are determined to maintain the ways
your old one. You will be called new, only when
your ways new
The accuracy of attitude is the foundation of all accuracy.
There are no barriers of success if the attitude
your right, and no one can help
if you have the wrong attitude
Elderly people-oriented
opportunities are young people who do not
never grow old, but youth-oriented
on security, has been aging since the young
Only people who can dare to be afraid, because
courage is doing something that
feared. So, when he feels afraid, you will
have a chance to be brave
The biggest strength able to defeat
stress is the ability to choose thoughts
appropriate. You will be more peaceful if the
Your thinking is way out of trouble.
Do not ever tear down the fence without knowing
why was founded. Never ignore
guidance without knowing the bad good
then you can
Someone who refused to renew the ways
work is no longer produced, applicable
as people continue to squeeze the straw to
got milk
If you have not found a suitable job
with your talent, talent is any job
you are now. You will appear bright
talented
We have more respect for poor people who dare
than rich people who are cowards. Because
actually has a clear difference of quality
ahead of would like to achieve
If we only do what we
know, when we will get
new knowledge? Do not
we know is the door to knowledge
Do not just avoid the impossible.
By trying something that does not
maybe, you will be able to achieve the best
from which you may achieve.
One of the harshest diminution in life
is to let a brilliant mind
a slave to a lazy body, which
put to rest before fatigue.
If you are looking for money, you will be forced
best effort service.
But if you prioritize service
well, it is you who will find the money
Time, changing all things, except us. We
perhaps aging with time,
but not necessarily be wise. We who have
change ourselves
All the time is right time to
do something good. Do not be
parents who are still doing something
should be done when young.
There is no price on time, but time is very
worth. Choose a time does not make us
rich, but use it well
is the source of all wealth
Tips that Can Concentration
There are times when we learn to fit or work can not focus and concentrate on doing a task. Whether it was disturbed by a friend or an atmosphere that does not support us in doing the task and perhaps also because of our mood that makes us fall apart concentration.
Ok just how we are to be concentrated:
1. Find a place / situation comfortable / you like
every person has their own ways and situations created to help onsentrasi, for example aja yng anyone could concentrate with loud music (rock for example). There are also do-able to concentrate assisted with soft music and have also wrote to concentrate with a quiet atmosphere.
2. When The Right
Find the times when you like / when you can relax for concentration. it if the time should be adjusted to the preferred type conditions.
3. Remove objects / goods that interfere with concentration
Well for example if dikamar, should elektronik2 television and other items used or removed poster2 hot pictures in tutupin first ..:))
4. A short break to relax the mind
Try Do not force the brain to think and hold, whether it's a short break to eat, drink, etc.
Ok just how we are to be concentrated:
1. Find a place / situation comfortable / you like
every person has their own ways and situations created to help onsentrasi, for example aja yng anyone could concentrate with loud music (rock for example). There are also do-able to concentrate assisted with soft music and have also wrote to concentrate with a quiet atmosphere.
2. When The Right
Find the times when you like / when you can relax for concentration. it if the time should be adjusted to the preferred type conditions.
3. Remove objects / goods that interfere with concentration
Well for example if dikamar, should elektronik2 television and other items used or removed poster2 hot pictures in tutupin first ..:))
4. A short break to relax the mind
Try Do not force the brain to think and hold, whether it's a short break to eat, drink, etc.
Working Tips To No Stress
Work can sometimes make people become stressed. Apart from the daily routine, work constraints and the atmosphere can also increase the existing levels of stress.
Here's the solution to "Working Without Stress"
1. Clean desk
Clean desk of the paper will help you to better focus on what is being done. The work will be over soon because the view is not disturbed by the piles of papers on the table.
2. Working with priority
Yup, ALL the work is important to be completed as soon as possible. But, we should be able to tell which is urged to complete, which could be slightly delayed. Work with the priority! And the burden of mind would be far less.
3. Decision soon
The sooner you make decisions in the face of the problem, the sooner your problems will be solved. And, guess what? You do not need anymore stress for long thinking about it. It's not an easy job, but must be done as soon as possible so as not to drag on. SPIRIT!
4. Delegate work
No one in this world who can do all the work without help from others. So, make it a habit to start sharing the workload with others in your work team. Stress decreases and you too will have more free time for other activities.
Still too stressful? Could it be because you have no other choice and felt compelled to do something that is not your interest? Or, even worse ... you feel treated like a dairy cow that produces profits only for your boss?
Then it's time for you to move forward and free yourself from stress! How? Find a sideline business opportunities that could bring additional income. With increasing income, you will have more choices and even automatic stress away from your mind ..
Here's the solution to "Working Without Stress"
1. Clean desk
Clean desk of the paper will help you to better focus on what is being done. The work will be over soon because the view is not disturbed by the piles of papers on the table.
2. Working with priority
Yup, ALL the work is important to be completed as soon as possible. But, we should be able to tell which is urged to complete, which could be slightly delayed. Work with the priority! And the burden of mind would be far less.
3. Decision soon
The sooner you make decisions in the face of the problem, the sooner your problems will be solved. And, guess what? You do not need anymore stress for long thinking about it. It's not an easy job, but must be done as soon as possible so as not to drag on. SPIRIT!
4. Delegate work
No one in this world who can do all the work without help from others. So, make it a habit to start sharing the workload with others in your work team. Stress decreases and you too will have more free time for other activities.
Still too stressful? Could it be because you have no other choice and felt compelled to do something that is not your interest? Or, even worse ... you feel treated like a dairy cow that produces profits only for your boss?
Then it's time for you to move forward and free yourself from stress! How? Find a sideline business opportunities that could bring additional income. With increasing income, you will have more choices and even automatic stress away from your mind ..
How to Increase Confidence
Self is an important trait that you need to get success in your life. For one thing, you must have confidence in advance to obtain the confidence and respect for others. Confidence seems like a distant and difficult to reach the goal, but can actually be achieved with a few small steps.
The following tips may be useful to overcome the problem of lack of confidence and eliminating inadequate.
1. Concentrate on the strengths rather than weaknesses.
Confidence comes from within. You must concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Writing ten positive things about yourself.
Focusing on the potential. This is why you have to love yourself and have confidence in yourself. Reward yourself for every positive thing that you write about yourself. Remember, you are someone special.
2. Trying new things
New experience can give confidence to help you grow as a person. You do not need to take skydiving or anything drastic like that. Starting a new hobby or take a larger class to help you develop lasting skills anyway.
Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn, not a chance to win or lose. Doing so will bring you new opportunities and can increase the sense of self-acceptance.
3. Using a positive image
Way to myself primarily a mental exercise. Visualization himself as a confident person is one way to make sure that mentality. Positive imagery is another way to build confidence. And do not give room for the development of negative thoughts.
4. Improve conversation skills
Increasing the ability to speak can help you feel more comfortable and confident in social situations which will lead to greater overall confidence. If you maintain eye contact and be a good listener, you will also issue an aura of confidence.
5. Be yourself
Basic has a positive attitude about yourself is the key to gain the confidence. You must believe in yourself, from your personality, to really believe that you are able and capable.
The following tips may be useful to overcome the problem of lack of confidence and eliminating inadequate.
1. Concentrate on the strengths rather than weaknesses.
Confidence comes from within. You must concentrate on the positive things about yourself. Writing ten positive things about yourself.
Focusing on the potential. This is why you have to love yourself and have confidence in yourself. Reward yourself for every positive thing that you write about yourself. Remember, you are someone special.
2. Trying new things
New experience can give confidence to help you grow as a person. You do not need to take skydiving or anything drastic like that. Starting a new hobby or take a larger class to help you develop lasting skills anyway.
Approach new experiences as opportunities to learn, not a chance to win or lose. Doing so will bring you new opportunities and can increase the sense of self-acceptance.
3. Using a positive image
Way to myself primarily a mental exercise. Visualization himself as a confident person is one way to make sure that mentality. Positive imagery is another way to build confidence. And do not give room for the development of negative thoughts.
4. Improve conversation skills
Increasing the ability to speak can help you feel more comfortable and confident in social situations which will lead to greater overall confidence. If you maintain eye contact and be a good listener, you will also issue an aura of confidence.
5. Be yourself
Basic has a positive attitude about yourself is the key to gain the confidence. You must believe in yourself, from your personality, to really believe that you are able and capable.
Endless Story
If you feel to be the most disadvantaged, is not useful, does not have a friend or friends, this is where you just once to visit.
Many of you who feel as I have described above, how does it feel? It must be extremely unpleasant and uncomfortable.
Here I will try to build your confidence slowly of course, because all the way to a destination no one short, because the shortcuts will only make all of your process crashed
From the research data, found many factors that make one reluctant constraints to be good caller. Among other things, lack of confidence, then followed by lack of skill. If we runut, both have a very close correlation. Actually the root of the problem of people who lack confidence lies in the skill (skill). And, the main skills for a good caller is located on the mastery of skills, understanding of the values presented, and the mastery of skills delivery.
To grow those three things need a habituation efforts. And to make it as a habit in a person permanently, it is necessary to invest several factors: First, understand. Without understanding the whole, people will not be able to work with sincerity, produktiftas weak, and will not last long. Second, having skills. People who do not have the skills usually will work with anxious and insecure. Third, the will. With the will, we can pray silently consistently in the range longer.
There are some practical tips to improve self-confidence. The main aspects include the willingness, understanding and skills. To fulfill the will aspect, you need to do a variety of businesses. Include:
1. Work with Ikhlas. Make sure that all good deeds will be rewarded, though not good to do.
2. Do any activities with full responsibility, has a base value (vaIue) and the principles of the strong.
3. Have a habit of receiving. This will increase the sense of belonging.
4. Increase sense of personal responsibility. With it, a sense of responsibility to solve human problems will grow.
5. Defend the rights habit. By way of encouraging a confidence to defend our rights are lost.
6. Have a habit of living with purpose. Without a strong purpose there will be no targets and less motivated to do a good activity though.
7. Self integrity. Major force for good caller is located on the power of integrity, the unity between the words, written statements and our actions.
While for the aspect of understanding and skills, perhaps a few steps you can try:
1. Have notes / reference material and neat agenda.
2. Prepare materials that will be delivered. Get up on stage without preparation, then down the stage filled with shame.
3. Read reference books, this is very help improve understanding.
4. Have a good memorization. People spoke rely what is remembered.
5. Take always the chance to perform in public at any time. As an exercise to launch the ability to talk and self-control.
6. Follow some training, such as training Training for Trainer, or similar training for trainers and facilitators who provide teaching skills.
With skills in the field of understanding and skills, plus a strong will, God willing improvement efforts, called on men to a path that God approves will have results and a long age range.
Many of you who feel as I have described above, how does it feel? It must be extremely unpleasant and uncomfortable.
Here I will try to build your confidence slowly of course, because all the way to a destination no one short, because the shortcuts will only make all of your process crashed
From the research data, found many factors that make one reluctant constraints to be good caller. Among other things, lack of confidence, then followed by lack of skill. If we runut, both have a very close correlation. Actually the root of the problem of people who lack confidence lies in the skill (skill). And, the main skills for a good caller is located on the mastery of skills, understanding of the values presented, and the mastery of skills delivery.
To grow those three things need a habituation efforts. And to make it as a habit in a person permanently, it is necessary to invest several factors: First, understand. Without understanding the whole, people will not be able to work with sincerity, produktiftas weak, and will not last long. Second, having skills. People who do not have the skills usually will work with anxious and insecure. Third, the will. With the will, we can pray silently consistently in the range longer.
There are some practical tips to improve self-confidence. The main aspects include the willingness, understanding and skills. To fulfill the will aspect, you need to do a variety of businesses. Include:
1. Work with Ikhlas. Make sure that all good deeds will be rewarded, though not good to do.
2. Do any activities with full responsibility, has a base value (vaIue) and the principles of the strong.
3. Have a habit of receiving. This will increase the sense of belonging.
4. Increase sense of personal responsibility. With it, a sense of responsibility to solve human problems will grow.
5. Defend the rights habit. By way of encouraging a confidence to defend our rights are lost.
6. Have a habit of living with purpose. Without a strong purpose there will be no targets and less motivated to do a good activity though.
7. Self integrity. Major force for good caller is located on the power of integrity, the unity between the words, written statements and our actions.
While for the aspect of understanding and skills, perhaps a few steps you can try:
1. Have notes / reference material and neat agenda.
2. Prepare materials that will be delivered. Get up on stage without preparation, then down the stage filled with shame.
3. Read reference books, this is very help improve understanding.
4. Have a good memorization. People spoke rely what is remembered.
5. Take always the chance to perform in public at any time. As an exercise to launch the ability to talk and self-control.
6. Follow some training, such as training Training for Trainer, or similar training for trainers and facilitators who provide teaching skills.
With skills in the field of understanding and skills, plus a strong will, God willing improvement efforts, called on men to a path that God approves will have results and a long age range.
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